Troubles with love

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Ok, I never thought I would talk about this.

I seem to have a hard time with falling in love, or more of the opposite actually. I "want" to fall in love, but no one wants to fall in love in return, and them I'm to shy to even ask a girl out.

My first girlfriend after a week decided not to go out with me, and then immediately started dating someone else, my second girlfriend stopped it due to religious differences, and there's this girl i like, but already has a date, and is years older than me (can we say, 15?)..

I can't do it right, ever, and now I'm too damn lonely I'm hoping there's a aspergers center locally or something for singles, and I can find someone that shares my interests, and way of thinking.

Am I doing something wrong else?

well, wot i think is, maybe u shud try goin owt wid sum1 ur age then the realtionship might be better an theres aspergers groups people can join their everywhere i think u jus av 2 look online maybe


Jess

well, i meant, try being in a relationship with someone that is the same age as you, that way it will work out more easier

why? obviousli they not respect that and they are not a nice person then you will b find someone 1 day, its hard for me as well thats why its just better staying single lol

I can't remain single anymore, it's driving me off the wall, because I have needs that need to be fulfilled, as most other guys, and I also want to spend my time (and hopefully, life) with a nice girl, and I can't do that with myself.

What you need to do is take a look at yourself and ask yourself what makes you think you deserve a girlfriend.

Not saying you don't, but if you don't have a lot of qualities that girls like then you need to improve yourself. Are you good-looking or are you fat? If you're fat then you need to start working out or go on a diet or whatever. Are you talented or do you just sit around playing video games all day? If you don't do anything cool or special then take lessons in something like karate or music. You can't just think of a girlfriend as something to have for your own enjoyment. Relationships are based on mutual attraction. If she isn't attracted to you then the relationship won't work. You have to have good traits or no girl will want to date you.

Also, it is VERY IMPORTANT to NOT act on your physical urges when you aren't even 15 yet. That's ridiculous. First of all, you'll regret it when you realize that the girl you're dating is definitely not your soul mate (trust me, she isn't. You're not experienced and mature enough to tell things like that yet, even if you think you are.) and you could serious screw up your life. Sex isn't just something to do for fun when noone else is home. Sex is a form of expressing your love for your own moral code and virtue/value system which you find embodied in another person. Seeing as how most 15 year olds dont HAVE a well-thought out and well-reasoned philosophical code, or if they do it inevitably changes as they mature, then having sex at your age would be disgraceful to the very idea of sex. If you aren't exactly 100% sure what I mean by that, then it means you aren't ready for sex yet.

If you want to find a girlfriend that's fine, but don't expect to love that person forever unless the both of you are intrapersonal geniuses who are 10 years more mentally mature:) than physically. Just remember to put yourself in her shoes and ask yourself why she would ever want to date you instead of someone else, and you should be able to find one within your "league." It's not about whether or not you like her. It's about whether or not you are worth her time.

Woah, you misunderstood my original post. I said the girl was 15 years older than me. I am 20 years old.

I'm always told im good looking, not fat (or even close), I do things other than sit around in my room, I love music, play music, etc.

It's just, when a girl hears I have autism, she turns the other way around, and doesn't even want to TRY and know me..

Heh, sorry. I thought you meant she was 15 and assumed you were 12 or something.

If hearing you have autism makes them turn away, then don't let them know you have autism. It takes tons of practice but you can probably pull it off if you study enough.

Well it depends on how mature and free-minded the people involved are. My best friend is an incredibly mature 16 year old and one of my other friends is a very immature 19 year old, so I can see what you're saying there. However, it seems that most people are not mentally and philosophically prepared to handle such intricate aspect of life at 15.

I asked my best friend the other day how she felt I mentally act, and she told me I act mentally at the age of a 30 year old. I think that's pretty darn good, but I can guarantee, when I was 15, I was more immature than a 15 year old. So somewhere between those years, something happened and I matured greatly.

(I noticed during that time also, my speech changed a little too, using more complex words than I normally would. But also lost the ability to want to learn, or to keep attention at books long enough to actually learn something.)

Having sex just because you have physical urges and want physical pleasure is like drinking a very expensive and world-reknowned fine wine just because you're thirsty. You obviously don't understand the finer aspects of it and quite frankly I think it's disgraceful.