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Kitty4670
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30 Apr 2025, 5:57 pm

Do you suppose to talk to one or two guys if you just talking to one guy, I mean if the first guy don't work out?



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30 Apr 2025, 6:08 pm

Talk to as many guys as you feel comfortable with Kitty, however many.

The more guys you talk to, the greater the chance of something happening romantically if you are fishing for that.



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30 Apr 2025, 6:12 pm

Unless you're in a relationship already or catfishing them, talk to as many people as you want.


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30 Apr 2025, 6:15 pm

As far as I know there's two schools of thought when it comes to how you handle talking with multiple people in the early stages of dating on apps. Some people opt to only talk to one person at a time and make a mini commitment before one is mutually agreed to and others view the early dating stage as a time to talk to and get to know as many people as possible until you mutually agree with one person you're talking to that you're entering into a committed relationship and no longer shopping around. Both have their pros and cons.

I always went with the second approach - I figured the wider the net the better, but I'd suggest you do whatever makes you feel the most comfortable.

Have you gone on a date with either of these guys? Or are you still just in the early on-app talking stage?