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Canadian Freedom Lover
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30 May 2025, 4:21 am

I have a question for some of the older men on this site.

Many young men in their teens, 20's and 30's have little to no luck or experience with the opposite sex. As you got older did you find it easier to get dates and form relationships with women?

I am approaching 30 and I am hoping with age, success, and maturity that I may become more appealing. So far I have none of those things so I guess only time will tell.



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30 May 2025, 4:34 am

Canadian Freedom Lover wrote:
Many young men in their teens, 20's and 30's have little to no luck or experience with the opposite sex. As you got older did you find it easier to get dates and form relationships with women?


Dates yes. Relationships and sex no.



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30 May 2025, 9:51 am

From my experiences, it has become impossible to date and be in relationships. I’ve found that women around my age (I’m 30) want to date someone who has experience. They don’t want to go teaching someone the wants/needs/expectations to those who have none at our age. I’ve personally discovered that women want to date everybody around me except me.



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30 May 2025, 7:53 pm

I think with age you develop more confidence and wisdom based on past mistakes so its possible to meet more people and even get dates. But like over-ripe fruit you aren't as attractive so need to also have accumulated material wealth to compensate.



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02 Jun 2025, 2:18 pm

reminds me of discussions i've had with people over the years



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03 Jun 2025, 1:14 am

WantToHaveALife wrote:
reminds me of discussions i've had with people over the years


And what did they have to say?



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03 Jun 2025, 5:15 am

Everthing is finite, nothing lasts forever.

And that includes the chances of dating/relationship/marriage, there's a finite age window for it.

And lost time can never be made up for.



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13 Jun 2025, 2:07 am

Canadian Freedom Lover wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
reminds me of discussions i've had with people over the years


And what did they have to say?


sometimes they cause me to think women are the only gender that are owed a relationship, but men are not



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17 Jun 2025, 5:36 pm

Escape1894 wrote:
From my experiences, it has become impossible to date and be in relationships. I’ve found that women around my age (I’m 30) want to date someone who has experience. They don’t want to go teaching someone the wants/needs/expectations to those who have none at our age. I’ve personally discovered that women want to date everybody around me except me.

Then just lie or don't speak about it.


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17 Jun 2025, 11:13 pm

SailorsGuy12 wrote:
Escape1894 wrote:
From my experiences, it has become impossible to date and be in relationships. I’ve found that women around my age (I’m 30) want to date someone who has experience. They don’t want to go teaching someone the wants/needs/expectations to those who have none at our age. I’ve personally discovered that women want to date everybody around me except me.

Then just lie or don't speak about it.


The problem with lying is that they eventually find out and terminate the relationship.



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17 Jun 2025, 11:23 pm

WantToHaveALife wrote:
Canadian Freedom Lover wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
reminds me of discussions i've had with people over the years


And what did they have to say?


sometimes they cause me to think women are the only gender that are owed a relationship, but men are not


Nobody in their right mind things women are owed relationships either. :roll:


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18 Jun 2025, 7:43 pm

I still lack the ability to meet new people as I did when I was younger.



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26 Jun 2025, 10:53 pm

well it feels that way because women are less prone to being forever alone



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27 Jun 2025, 1:14 am

Well I have pretty much always been able to talk to women but finding one in the church of Christ is impossible for me. I think I could of been married by now if my future wife did not have to be church of Christ...I have not been on a date in a long time also its hard for me to date because my parents wont let me date so realistically I will have to wait till I move out or they go to nursing home or die. My mom wont even let me sign up for dating site so I will never be able to make up for lost time. I am sure at least a few women could be interested in me after my parents die but I think they would be most likely only after my money and at that point I dont know if I would want to risk a divorce.