Been single for too long and worried about a relationship

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I seem to feel that because I've been single for a long time and have only been out with women as "friends" it's making me worry I'll never get into a relationship because I have times where I do hobbies and things on my own or go out on my own a lot, and worried I'll struggle to ease away from it when in a relationship. I'm also worried because I don't want to be the only man later on in life having been in no relationship whereas everyone else has by a certain stage of their lives. I'm really just sick of pressuring myself on these issues because I'm in my 30s. I just want to take it easy, take time and enjoy it rather than feeling this self imposed pressure to find a partner by a certain age.

I'm so glad to read that you realise that your pressure to find a partner is self imposed, although society (friends, family, colleagues) aren't exactly making things easier for single people sometimes.

You're in your 30s, you've plenty time to find a partner. I'm saying this in an encouraging way, not in a belittling way. It's good to discover who you are first, what your values and boundaries are before entering a relationship, as it can prevent a lot of heartache.

It's also good to know that you can be on your own and manage life independently. Plenty people jump from relationship to relationship because they're scared of being alone, with all sorts of disastrous outcomes as a result.