*sigh* The easiest way to get a date/relationship.

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Women can get a date/boyfriend/sex/whatever, anytime and any place they want. The problem is...they just don't want it. Women are so gosh-darn picky about their mates, in the little time that they actually do desire one.

Men are not so choosy...at least not the ones I know (including myself).

Because girls are driven more on emotions...here is what you do...

Find a girl who is lonely, sad, or vulnerable.

I hate to put it in such sick terms but...I tell it like it is...

If the girl is vulnerable, she steps down off her pedistal and it becomes much easier to establish a healthy connection when she is feeling bad about herself and her life. When her self-esteem is low, she is less likely to blow you off for some one else.

The key is to make her believe that you are her "saviour" - and that you are a "knight in shining armour who will sweep her off her feet."

Here is how you assume that role:

1. Get her to believe that YOU have the courage, strength, and heart to rescue her from whatever situation she is in.
2. After you have convinced her that you are strong, caring, and compassionate, you can assume the role of a guardian. She will respect you.
3. Make sure she is vulnerable, and worships the idea of you before asking her out on a date or making some kind of move.

4. Have honor. Actually rescue this girl. These kinds of girls are very easily taken advantage of, but you don't have to do that. Treat her with respect, open doors for her, be chivalrous, but maintain a strong hold on her. Make sure she knows that there is no better man for her, than you.

Don't threaten, intimidate, or abuse her.

I see vulnerable women as a level playing field for the sick game known as human love. I don't wish for them to be taken advantage of or abused.

Vulnerability can be a beautiful thing, as it opens the gates of human connection and it allows feelings to be passed from one person to another.

When women are vulnerable, their defences are down, and they are more accepting and forgiving of the minor social flaws aspies might have.


*sigh* If only there was a women vulnerable enough to actually want to give me the time of day...

Desperation is a major turn-off for me when it comes to dating.

I want someone who is actively seeking someone like me, not someone who is going out with me simply because I was the first guy to show her any sort of attention.

Tim

Congratulations you've written a guide for taking advatage of a women at her weakest point, thinking of her as less than human, and almost guaranteeing she'll be suicidal if it doesn't work out.

I had a man that was my "saviour" at the worst time in my life. I almost didn't make it through the next 9 months, and I seriously considered taking him down with me too, though the plan I thought about most frequently was to blow my brains out on his doorstep so that he'd open the door one day and see just what he did to me. I didn't think he'd ever forget it if I did that.And that was important to me as I never wanted another woman to be in that same situation of being "rescued" by a wonderful man who was in reality doing nothing more than trying to get something for himself.

Um, yeah this idea is kind of problematic.

First, you are looking for girls with problems. Girls with serious mental problems are the last place someone should look for a relationship. Especially someone who has difficulties with social skills. Just how are you going to help, you aren't a psychologist.

While I am inclined to help someone who is sad, a sort of rescuing ideal comes over me... it's really foolish to use this as your criteria for attraction.

Also, if you set your self up for the savior role, you better be completely sure you can fulfill that role. It's terribly devastating to try to help someone, and then pull out and say... well it's not really working out.

That role is to be played by a husband or long term boyfriend, who is committed for the long haul. Not a lonely guy who is looking for companionship; you really know nothing about her or anything about her plight to even begin to help. And the lonely guy seriously probably has emotional problems of his own, unless some sort of strange co-dependency develops... pain looks to be the end result.

What I do think is nice, is when two very lonely people come together. You aren't saving anyone from anything,just fully enjoying each others company.

Ok, so that OP made me a little angry. Try talking to women. Then you'll know that what you're saying is BS. Yeah, ok, so we get close to those who help us through the bad times. But who doesn't?

Every relationship I've had has been pot luck. I'm not picky. I just want someone to love me. Which is probably the case for most ppl. You're sick if you are willing to manipulate that. Love isn't a game, you sicko.