How do I get advice from people?

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I suck at dating. I really do.

Problem is, my friends give bad advice because they don't know I have/might have AS. They think I'm just dating the wrong men when I know for a fact that men just don't like me, and I know the AS is why. Is there anyway I can convince them it's something that's wrong with ME and get them to tailor their advice that way?

Maybe this isn't a question. Maybe it's just a rant. I don't know. I'm just really bummed out with the dating situation lately and having patronizing friends doesn't help.

You ARE dating the wrong men.
Try someone on the spectrum.

Eh...I don't know about that. I think that's a really easy way to never have a relationship. One person needs to know how life works. And honestly, I like men to lead in the relationship - just how I am.

Eh. My wife was probably pretty damned
close (if not on) the spectrum. She couldn't
find anyone who could make sense of her.

Look, I'm not saying that someone has to
be diagnosable, just aim for people who
understand the same kinds of issues.

But , keep playing with things that won't, if you must.

Last guy I had a date with has a masters degree in engineering and has never had a girlfriend. I'd say he SHOULD have understood, yet still, after emailing me saying what a great time he had, never called. I'm not sure it gets much closer.

Did you call him? Why expect him to do
more than you're willing to? He TOLD
you 'twas fun. Gods, he may have been
worse off then you are.

Long story short. Yes, I called him. He was out of town (pilot, and had just moved here). Things will be crazy until his house is built in a few months and he won't be here much. I sent him an email today telling him I'd love to have dinner next time he's in town.

Worse off than I am? Possibly, although he claims he gets along well with people and it's just women who don't want to date him. Well, this woman DOES.

(No quips about how pilots are all players, because it's just a stereotype...I'm one too, although not for a living)

A player or a pilot?

Looks like you're moving things
along. I can't even really imagine
having friends (close enough to
really confide in), who weren't
pretty damned close to AS, so
'tis hard to see, for me.