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07 Sep 2007, 7:31 am

I was given advice that is either racist or illogical. The remark was, “Don’t date white girls, they will mess you up”. I said, “in that case my friend should not date them either”. She said,” Which one that looked like the geek version of John Travolta”. She said, “You mean the white guy, its ok for him.However, you need to stick with your own…..roots.. bla .. bla.

Surly what is good for the goose is good for the gander if black girls are good for me, then they are good for him too. Probably more for him because collectively black girls tend to be more NT then white and he prefers NT woman more then me.

It is hard enough finding someone already without given bad advice that will only intention is to implement social Darwinism and racial purity. If she weren’t racist and only untactful, she would say that black girls are good for any race of man.



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07 Sep 2007, 7:44 am

Yeh this is racism. Probably the worst type, passive racism. It brings home that racism is really about ignorance it doesn't have to involve direct abuse. Simply your friend is pretty ignorant.

Anyone can date who they like there should be no pressure to date a particular group or not. This attitude is also a problem within other races too.



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07 Sep 2007, 8:07 am

Just so long as they don't have kids. :lol:



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07 Sep 2007, 9:32 am

Racism is moronic.



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07 Sep 2007, 12:05 pm

I note that you’ve had other posts expressing befuddlement in this area. I won’t comment on your current quandary but would like to ask you a question about your avatar.

Do you know the meaning of those spider web tattoos you display so prominently? I don’t mean the pop/kiddie/narcissist/trendy meaning. I mean the real meaning, the original meaning, the international meaning, the military meaning, the meaning in the world of men?

I suspect you do know. For those that don’t the answer is this: They are worn only by white men and mean they’ve killed (murdered) at least one person they perceived as racially inferior; and not in combat.

I can’t believe WP allows that image.



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07 Sep 2007, 12:37 pm

Aspie_Chav do you talk like a gangster at all, and if you do what do you say? :?:


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07 Sep 2007, 12:40 pm

Aspie_Chav wrote:
She said, “You mean the white guy, its ok for him.However, you need to stick with your own…..roots.. bla .. bla.


Is "she" a black girl? Maybe she just wants you all for herself! You mentioned she says white girls are OK for white guys, maybe she doesn't care about getting the white boys, but she likes the black ones and doesn't like to see one wasted on a white girl? In High School I knew a gay guy, he was very very handsome, he once told me when girls found out he was gay they usually said that it was such a waste! :D



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07 Sep 2007, 2:35 pm

Kit wrote:
I note that you’ve had other posts expressing befuddlement in this area. I won’t comment on your current quandary but would like to ask you a question about your avatar.

Do you know the meaning of those spider web tattoos you display so prominently? I don’t mean the pop/kiddie/narcissist/trendy meaning. I mean the real meaning, the original meaning, the international meaning, the military meaning, the meaning in the world of men?

I suspect you do know. For those that don’t the answer is this: They are worn only by white men and mean they’ve killed (murdered) at least one person they perceived as racially inferior; and not in combat.

I can’t believe WP allows that image.


Your reading too much into it. The avator isn’t me. I used my own photo once fiddle with it and lost it, so I used this chav a place holder never put my original photo back. I am a black guy.



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07 Sep 2007, 2:49 pm

KaliMa wrote:
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She said, “You mean the white guy, its ok for him.However, you need to stick with your own…..roots.. bla .. bla.


Is "she" a black girl? Maybe she just wants you all for herself! You mentioned she says white girls are OK for white guys, maybe she doesn't care about getting the white boys, but she likes the black ones and doesn't like to see one wasted on a white girl? In High School I knew a gay guy, he was very very handsome, he once told me when girls found out he was gay they usually said that it was such a waste! :D


Nahh She has no interest in me as we are polar opposites. She did ask me when I am going to take her to Brighton on a day out, but she would to too high maintenance. It is just her belief system. Be being a logical aspie, I acknowledge that racism is in the genes and a part of mother natures plan and exists in abundance at the other end of the spectrum.

Sill pisses me off though, as I am not a complete Mr Spock.



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07 Sep 2007, 2:55 pm

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Your reading too much into it. The avator isn’t me. I used my own photo once fiddle with it and lost it, so I used this chav a place holder never put my original photo back. I am a black guy.
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totally shocking, i thought that was you


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07 Sep 2007, 11:58 pm

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Racism is moronic.


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08 Sep 2007, 12:09 pm

Aspie_Chav wrote:
I was given advice that is either racist or illogical. The remark was, “Don’t date white girls, they will mess you up”. I said, “in that case my friend should not date them either”. She said,” Which one that looked like the geek version of John Travolta”. She said, “You mean the white guy, its ok for him.However, you need to stick with your own…..roots.. bla .. bla.

Surly what is good for the goose is good for the gander if black girls are good for me, then they are good for him too. Probably more for him because collectively black girls tend to be more NT then white and he prefers NT woman more then me.

It is hard enough finding someone already without given bad advice that will only intention is to implement social Darwinism and racial purity. If she weren’t racist and only untactful, she would say that black girls are good for any race of man.


I'm not sure if it's true or not but the media portrays black men as sometimes trying to obtain a white woman just because she is a white woman. If she is black and has a hard time finding a boyfriend this might annoy her. If that's the case I wouldn't worry too much about it.


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08 Sep 2007, 12:43 pm

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I'm not sure if it's true or not but the media portrays black men as sometimes trying to obtain a white woman just because she is a white woman. If she is black and has a hard time finding a boyfriend this might annoy her. If that's the case I wouldn't worry too much about it.



She has an easier time then I do. I am not going to make decision on based on how NT make. I already made that mistake before, I allowed an aspie who was 21 and I really like go. Many said it wasn't the best thing to date someone so young. Maybe they though that we could not relate. But I can not really relate to NTs woman that happen to be my age anyway so that must be as equally wrong. If I dated the most beautiful NT woman, I will always be secrately looking for an aspie.

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08 Sep 2007, 2:32 pm

Aspie_Chav wrote:
GoatOnFire wrote:

I'm not sure if it's true or not but the media portrays black men as sometimes trying to obtain a white woman just because she is a white woman. If she is black and has a hard time finding a boyfriend this might annoy her. If that's the case I wouldn't worry too much about it.



She has an easier time then I do. I am not going to make decision on based on how NT make. I already made that mistake before, I allowed an aspie who was 21 and I really like go. Many said it wasn't the best thing to date someone so young. Maybe they though that we could not relate. But I can not really relate to NTs woman that happen to be my age anyway so that must be as equally wrong. If I dated the most beautiful NT woman, I will always be secrately looking for an aspie.

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I think it's good that you're looking for an aspie. 21's perfectly legal, I don't have a problem with that. How NT is this woman? If she's pretty NT I wouldn't worry, NT's are usually full of crap. :)


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08 Sep 2007, 2:39 pm

I wouldn't worry about it at all. Her statement makes no sense whether she's NT or not.

You're a great-looking guy. I bet she wants you for herself, especially in light of that comment about you taking her to Brighton.

If you want an aspie girlfriend, why don't you put an ad on aspieaffection.com and post that photo?



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08 Sep 2007, 3:12 pm

She is 24 years old, and a completely pure NT from Jamaica. She isn’t bad looking and she has a nice big rear which she loves. Being high maintenance is a turn off to the point of being sexual turn off. Which is surprising considering that she has a better body then the aspie girl that I really liked.