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15 Aug 2005, 8:56 pm

During High school I was attracted to various ladies. However I never had enough self-confidence to ask them out on a date, mainly because firstly I had terrible acne and was pretty short (now I am only 5'8 tall) and also I thought they would freak out at unusual behavior.

I am totally incapable of trying to attract a girl out on a date or even flirting with one. So I decided to given an appearance of not being sexually interested in anybody, some people thought I was gay, probably including my family. Some girls in 8th grade had shown me a nude picture of Brad Pitt probably for that reason. If I came out as gay tomorrow, nobody would be surprised.

Also more recently apart from those reasons above, I do not have a job (little hope of getting one in the next few years); living in a welfare dependant (my Dad and his girlfiend too have little chance of getting employment) household and with a father I am kind of embarrassed off. Also I have not had much contact with the opposite sex over the last two or three years and gradually becoming alienated from the opposite sex

The repression of my sexual and romantic feelings have taken a quite toll on me personally and it could lead to some very dark paths.

I dunno what really to do frankly.



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15 Aug 2005, 11:59 pm

newchum wrote:
During High school I was attracted to various ladies. However I never had enough self-confidence to ask them out on a date, mainly because firstly I had terrible acne and was pretty short (now I am only 5'8 tall) and also I thought they would freak out at unusual behavior.

I am totally incapable of trying to attract a girl out on a date or even flirting with one. So I decided to given an appearance of not being sexually interested in anybody, some people thought I was gay, probably including my family. Some girls in 8th grade had shown me a nude picture of Brad Pitt probably for that reason. If I came out as gay tomorrow, nobody would be surprised.

Also more recently apart from those reasons above, I do not have a job (little hope of getting one in the next few years); living in a welfare dependant (my Dad and his girlfiend too have little chance of getting employment) household and with a father I am kind of embarrassed off. Also I have not had much contact with the opposite sex over the last two or three years and gradually becoming alienated from the opposite sex

The repression of my sexual and romantic feelings have taken a quite toll on me personally and it could lead to some very dark paths.

I dunno what really to do frankly.


I didn't talk to girls, or anyone really, in high school. I was fat, had acne, and was a horrible dresser.

I'm 23 now and I'm much better socially. Largely because my job has forced me to interact with people more. I can even get dates occassionally. Also, weight-lifting has helped improve my appearance, and appearance is how people first judge you.

The gay thing . . . I had a similar experience. In a small redneck town, if you're a guy who's not right in line with the norm, they'll lable you gay because that's the only explaination their ignorant minds can imagine.

My" dark path" has been consistent depression. I've actually been depressed so long that it is my normal state and I hardly notice it until it builds up and causes physical illness.



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16 Aug 2005, 12:09 am

hmm, I'm still fat, have acne, and am a horrible dresser. :?



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17 Aug 2005, 2:53 am

newchum wrote:
I am totally incapable of trying to attract a girl out on a date or even flirting with one. So I decided to given an appearance of not being sexually interested in anybody, some people thought I was gay, probably including my family.


I can totally to relete to what your saying there, Because of my failing pulling power & at times crippling shyness with chicks. it's led to my parents thinking that i'm gay. Years ago this would horrify me that they would think that way. these days i just laugh about it to myself, because i know and have always known i'm 100 percent straight, Really it's just a case of pulling those d-mn chicks. :D



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17 Aug 2005, 12:56 pm

? try and meet a girl who also has AS could be easier or something?