why would any normal girl want to marry an aspie man?

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if theres any girl that dont mind marrying an aspie guy then i havent found one. it looks like unless i dont say anything about my asperger's syndrome and pretend to be normal, i'll never be in a relationship. i dont know if it's just my society but most girls i know only want to marry rich, sociable guys that can take them to parties and have CEO-like career and can buy them expensive stuff.

but i hate pretending to be normal and i certainly dont want to spend my whole marriage life pretending to be normal.

That's part of the problem. It's difficult attracting someone... and it's even harder finding someone that you would be very compatible with... having AS.

AS requires many special qualities in a mate.

But, at the same time... the naiveté and wonder with the world can be very attractive. People with AS can be very knowledgeable about something, if you find someone else who is interested in the same thing... great. Also, AS people... generally... don't play games... it's hard for people to understand this... "games" are a part of the dating systems that have been created... but if someone can really understand this aspect of their AS partner they'll know what an asset it is.

Also, honesty... AS folks tend to be very honest. A great boon to relationships...

I think AS folks have many qualities that will make their relationships very special. The only hard part is the initial attraction...

I'm not going to pretend to be anything but my self... it's a form of lying to me. I think that's a problem for AS relationships... initially AS people can adopt the "normal" qualities enough to attract someone... but in the long term their true AS self comes forth... and it's not what the partner expected.

Maybe that's what happens... it seems to be from that AS partners forum I've read... that's a scary place...

Why would you want to marry a normal girl?

I think a lot of girl grow up to be women and are failed by their overly social husbands, at which point they get divorced and have a newfound respect for guys that can commit (also commonly known as aspie men).

I think it is very important to try and find something you're good at and get a job, and learn how to keep it. Without that, yes, you'll probably never find your girl. And to keep your girl, you will have to read a lot of Tony Attwood and so would your girl/wife. I promise you, having to teach your husband to hug you twice a day is a helluva lot easier than having to teach him to not spend every weekend on the golf course or socialising with his buddies (and buddettes) until the early morning hours after work.

At the end of the day, all girls want a good guy that's nice. Just be a good guy and be nice. You actually have an advantage over other men. You may just have to wait for your girl to grow up first to appreciate you.

Define "normal"

A normal girl would want to marry an aspie man... if he were rich and easy to manipulate. She could blow his money and he probably wouldn't even blow up if he knew she was blatantly cheating on him.

Other than that I can't think of another reason.

So he will hack her satellite receiver to get free TV.

Well, this one got me curious so this morning I asked my girlfriend why she thinks we're still together. Here's her reply:

1) You're kind.

2) You're honest

3) You're predictable, I know that when I come home dinner will be ready and I'll get a hug

4) You like cats

5) You're faithful

6) You can program the VCR

7) I laugh at your jokes and you laugh at mine.

Lots of the things in the list above can be seen in any Asperger male including the ability to program the VCR

Ed Almos

I wouldn't marry a guy who didn't at least have aspie traits.

But then, I'm not normal, so I don't fit the parameters of the question.