looking at girls differently

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Ok, this is weird, even for me, whom is always a gentlemen and never have "wrong" thoughts.

Recently, for the past few weeks, I've been looking at girls differently, examining every detail, and that's just not like me. I usually like a girl by whom they are, but not physically how they look, and now I seem to be looking at their looks. And then to top it off, I've had dreams of some of these girls now (yea you know what i mean), and that REALLY is not like me.

I'll be turning 21 in two months, so what's with this now?

Is it because I'm still single and crave companionship, or is it some kind of "part of growing up" thing?

Then you must be exploring sexual desire for the first time, and to that I say congradulations! Its completely normal, and theres nothing to worry about. Theres nothing "wrong" with being part of human nature

aww, dont worry so much. i guess that the chances of you wanting to be with someone you cant stand as a person are as low as before - and enjoying looks for what they are, how could that be bad? even a look that is obviously geared towards the bodily/sexual appearance of a girl doesnt need to be un-gentlemanly. it can be, of course, if its hidden, leering, almost drooling on your shoes - instantly turning away the moment they realize. but it also can be done in an appreciative way. thats the same as telling someone that you think they really look good (instead of a stammered "wanna f***?"). and who wouldnt like that?

shouldn't i have had those desires years ago? or is this like a new "level" of desire?

Possibly. But you can't put off these urges forever. The longer you put off acting on them, the more desperate the urges become.

Well I think that what's happening is that you have been lonely for much longer than your subconscious would like, and therefore certain areas of your mind is "kicking it into overdrive" to spur you into finding a mate.

It's happened to me before too, but I don't really see it as a bad thing. As long as you appreciate a woman's mind and personality, what's wrong with appreciating her body too?

how am i supposed to act on them? if your thinking about that one handed thing, nope, doesn't work for me...

Try to get one of these delightful
critters interested in sating your
desire?

You may be fortunate, in not having
wanted sex the way most males do,
earlier. Then again, maybe everyone
has to suffer through the period of having
NO idea of how to act on one's desires.

Hmm...seems I'm back there again.

I have to resort to the one handed thing But sometimes when I feel like it Ill use two hands
How doesnt it work for you? When you feel horny, just try to imagine something to get off on and it should work

Work on your flexibility.

well, for one, i'd like a girls presence to be involved.. but i'd want it to be love.. i don't think my hand likes me, lol

Perhaps a professional?

i really don't understand what you mean

There are people who sell sex.

Oh you are such a lucky young man, Hokeman!

It sounds to me like your hormones are just kicking in.

You "missed" the misery of having these feelings screaming at you while you are trying to do your algebra homework and high school politics is driving you nuts! It seems like your developmental delay is just enough to give you your sexual maturity when you are old enough to handle it gracefully, without the teenage madness. It's just beginning for you, and your timing couldn't be better. You are so lucky!

Just let it unfold. You may have some very nice dreams and all you have to do is pay attention.

No professionals for you! Believe me they have nothing good to teach you.

You don't have to say anything. Try not to stare. Young women around you will sense the change in you, and they'll be attracted to you because you are a healthy and altogether sweet and genuine male.

Again, just try to pay attention. Just notice which girls are hanging around you. Let them approach you, have an open heart. You just might find true love. Don't rush.
If a woman tries to push you or makes you feel inadequate just smile and let her go and wait for the next one.

This guy makes it sound easy.