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16 Sep 2007, 6:06 pm

Not sure how to phrase this but here goes!
I'm curious to know how often my fellow Aspies self pleasure. I personally have never done it, and never will do it, but am I alone?
It seems that everywhere I read or hear about this topic I am in a minority of 1, and it would be nice to know whether i can officially consider myself a freak, or whether there are indeed others like me.

I don't particularly want too many details, someone else can make a thread for the intimate details of this if they so choose.

Well, am I a complete individual or are there others like me?


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16 Sep 2007, 6:08 pm

Probably needs to be in the adult section,
if we're going to discuss such things in any
detail.

Ah, but I think you are in a pretty small minority.
Are you asexual? Some hang-up about the idea?
VERY easily orgasmic, so you don't feel any need?



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16 Sep 2007, 6:18 pm

Are you talking about masturbation or things like body stroking, massaging for pleasure?

If it's masturbation you're talking about go ahead and say it. We don't want to wind up with everyone here calling it, "The Act That Must Not be Named!" bwahahahaah :twisted:

I'm 47, and I've never kept count, but I've done it for a long time now. I don't really do it for pleasure though... more of a release, whether for anxiety or something else. It's not unpleasant for me, but it's not exactly what I'd call fun. Sometimes I just feel I had better get it over with so I can get on with my day/night.

If it's just touching to create pleasurable sensations in my body/mind, then I can say I like that better, but I don't engage in that as often as I probably should.

I've pretty much disconnected pleasure from anything I do with my body... or else I'm just that way naturally.

The most pleasurable acts come from other people touching me (certain ones at certain times), and when I'm outdoors... the wind, sun, etc. on my skin.
I find that a person's touch, even if it's only a light touch on my shoulder, at the right time is so very nice! :D
Extreme temps stimulate me in ways I like, but non-extreme temps with the rain or wind playing across my skin can also be nice.


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16 Sep 2007, 6:24 pm

calandale wrote:
Probably needs to be in the adult section,
if we're going to discuss such things in any
detail.

Ah, but I think you are in a pretty small minority.
Are you asexual? Some hang-up about the idea?
VERY easily orgasmic, so you don't feel any need?



Good questions, and you're probably right, this may be better suited to the adult section. I'll leave it here for now, as long as it remains relatively clean.

I'm not asexual, but my hormones don't seem to be very rampant either so i'd guess that i'm somewhere in the middle!
I do have a hang-up about it, to be perfectly honest the idea of pleasuring myself is a major turn-off. I'm not entirely sure why, especially since I don't have any problem with anyone else pleasuring themselves. Guess that i'll have to dig deep into my past to discover the reason i find it so repulsive.
Easily orgasmic, erm.... not sure, but i'd think it's probably no. On average I have wet dreams (apologies if that term is a bit much for anyone in this section) about once a fortnight (It's definitely from just mental stimulation as I always sleep on my hands!).
As far as I can tell I think about sex very little compared to your average person, though i do think of related things a lot more often. :wink:

I hear all sorts of rubbish like "men think about sex every 8 seconds" and other variations on that theme. I'm not sure how often I think about it but I know that I don't think about it every day. Never really measured how often the thought pops into my head, as I think that if I did measure this thought that I would never be able to stop thinking about it, and that would ruin my test results!


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16 Sep 2007, 6:29 pm

Interesting. Your answers fit in well with a hypothesis
that I've had. Ran a poll here on orgasms while asleep,
and FAR more women had them than men. Yet, there is
this idea that guys all have wet dreams. I suspect that
this was a much more common issue, when masturbation
was viewed as a sin, and one tried very hard not to.



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16 Sep 2007, 6:30 pm

wsmac wrote:
Are you talking about masturbation or things like body stroking, massaging for pleasure?

If it's masturbation you're talking about go ahead and say it. We don't want to wind up with everyone here calling it, "The Act That Must Not be Named!" bwahahahaah :twisted:


Fair enough, i'll call a spade a spade. I'm talking about everything from stroking and massaging to actual masturbation.

I get pleasure from a lot of things I do physically, am sorry to hear that you don't. I can't express thinks very well using other forms of communication but I can physically(well, I am a little clumsy, but i'm still definitely better expresing myself physically then verbally).


Oh, and I think your (possible) linking of masturbation to Harry Potter may disturb/please some other forum members!


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16 Sep 2007, 6:45 pm

englishwolf wrote:
Oh, and I think your (possible) linking of masturbation to Harry Potter may disturb/please some other forum members!


8O I didn't think about that when I posted it!

I mean, I was making fun with the Voldemort thing, but I just don't think of this topic as such a touchy (no pun intended... really!) issue.

One of the things I admire about WP is the frank talk I see here, which seems much less fraught with inhibition than out in my other world.

The whole topic of not saying Voldemort's name out loud is something I tend to think the general populace didn't embrace as it should have.
Far too many things in our cultures are subjected to inhibitions that do nothing more than create so much anxiety in people.

Masturbation is one of those things.... probably everyone knows that... everyone knows... but we can't seem to talk openly about it like we can something like kissing.

Anyway, I'm looking forward to the other comments bound to show up here. :D


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16 Sep 2007, 8:13 pm

About once daily. Sometimes a day is skipped but not often.



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16 Sep 2007, 8:15 pm

For awhile, I used to look at a lot of porn, and lost interest in real girls for a few years, jerking off usually 1-3 times a day on avg. I usually do it once a day to keep the pipes clean, but am wondering if I should do it more to get my sex drive up. Most people who have sex a lot whack off a lot too, it is more to do with sex drive than whether you have a sex partner or not.



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16 Sep 2007, 8:26 pm

Lost interest in porn AND sex.

Just want my sweet thing, but no
idea what I'd do with her. :P



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16 Sep 2007, 8:30 pm

I'm asexual and female and I can tell when I'm ovulating because for about two days a month I will occassionally see a man and think 'Wow - he's sort of handsome . . .' and I can look at my calendar and think - yep, it's been about 21 days now - I'm ovulating . . . it is just funny how hormones are . . .



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16 Sep 2007, 8:50 pm

I don't mastrubate that often just because I'm way too stressed out to do so!


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16 Sep 2007, 10:17 pm

I do it almost every night, but I don't see anything wrong with a 20 year old guy doing so?

I hate it though when I see a body part of a really good looking girl(usually the bottom) and then I get a huge boner that is just embarassing and I have to tuck my shirt over it or something. I sware it happens frequently.

Thats annoying.



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16 Sep 2007, 10:24 pm

Don't be annoyed by it.
Just let it show.

Consider it advertising your interest.



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16 Sep 2007, 10:53 pm

I masturbate (usually) daily before bed as the endorphins help me to relax. I don't look at porn as most of it just seems rather unattractive (I have very weird ideas of who's attractive).

As far as other stereotypy goes, I rock when I listen to music, chew on my finger when I'm on the computer and not using both hands, and other stuff that I can't seem to remember right now. Last night I tried rocking myself before going to bed. It. was. heavenly. I encourage all to try this if you haven't.


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16 Sep 2007, 11:14 pm

cource I pleasure :oops: