You know you're in a very sad situation if...

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1) You've been in a "40 year old virgin" situation, where you are just so incompetent that women don't want you...

2) You've been here before...

3) Every time you think you like someone, they say they are taken

4) You wasted 3 years of your life brooding over someone who never wanted you, only to find out that there was some hidden quality about her that made you utterly hate her...

I don't know if my situation is sad just yet...

I'm still fairly hopeful that I can get into a relationship...

But if I were to write out all my attempts at love, from my very first infatuation in kindergarten to my latest bittersweet pursuit... it's either a terribly sad or funny story. Finding a great relationship with a great woman would be a great ending to it though...

Otherwise it's just pathetic or tragic... I haven't decided yet...

(don't really want to lessen the word tragic... nothing in my life is that tragic compared to others in the world)

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I got two, three, and four.

1) ... well I'm not 40, but I feel older than that sometimes...

2) Well yeah... that and hundreds other wikipedia pages.

3) Happens more often than I like.

4) No, nothing quite like that before with me... I pick up those negative things far sooner than that.

I was hoping that people could add more to the list... I can only think of so much...

...what exactly do you mean by sad? Sad for the individual, or "sad" in terms of the individual's life when viewed by others?

If you're talking about the individual, sure, it sucks to be in those situations. Been there, done that. To get hard on yourself or critical of your life because of it? That's basically working to make sure that things can't improve.

I think it's about viewing your whole love life as a whole, and seeing it as a pretty sad state of affairs... at least in terms of love.

Listing instances that are sad as justification...

It's kind of easy to get into a funk after repeated failures when you have experienced little if any success.

It should be sad from the inside and outside.

I'll have to think of how to phrase my specific examples to put them here.

And as I said, I don't think I'm that sad of a case. I'll see what happens in 20 years... but right now I have hope.

Viewing your life as a whole is the best way to do it...but to accurately do so would require knowledge of the future. You addressed this later on....so...pause button on this part for now...

That's a reason to treat them as experience, bumps in the road, and not simply failures. The more one starts to view past failures as a guarantee of future failure, the harder it will be to succeed.

This is the best way to handle things. Exactly as you put it. Seeing what happens in 20 years, not assuming that what is is what was, and therefore always will be. Life involves the individual and the environment. Even if the two do not match up all that great at the moment, or in the past, there's no guarantee as to how well they might in the future. Even if you never change, the world around you could change to your benefit, and make some "impossible" change from within unnecessary.

Sure, feel frustrated with the present if it sucks, spend some time being upset about it, just don't let it get to you to the point that you feel like you have no future.

lol... I love how I'm trying to express my love woes in the worst possible dry humor I can muster and everyone is taking it seriously...

Whoopsy Doodle...

(and yes this is a phrase I've used in real life... )

...maybe you've forgotten what site you are on...

You also must consider the possibility that it simply didn't come across as all that humorous...