Question for the women.

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Ok, all the women I know say "looks doen't matter". So if looks don't matter, how come 99% of the women on personal sites look for men that are not fat? Even the fat women look for thin men. Just a little hypocrtical don't you think?

I've been told that I should put some
meat on my bones, by some. Can't
all be true.

Women look for the total package; if a guy has a good sense of humor, it doesn't matter if his nose looks like big bird.

What do you consider as fat?

overeating can be a sign of some underlying problems. Men have more muscles, so for a guy to be really, really large, they have to eat a ton of food. The same is not true for women, we have naturally slow metabolism and not many muscles. However, it's also true that if we are extremely large it means that we aren't able to monitor or control our food intact and it could be underlying problems.

What do I recommend. Tell girls that you are large, but with a large personality and you want to charm the pants off of a girl by your inability to understand them and your desire to be bossed around. How can you go wrong?

And otherwise, for that matter.

When stressed, before finding
the addiction of the web, I would
go for 8 - 12 hour walks.

A LOT easier for me to hurt
through dancing. 'Specially with
the glass I have in my foot.

But, the way that I slam into anything
solid is pretty damned painful too.

It's funny how some of us seek pain, of a certain sort.

Damned near any sort here.

Better than not being alive.

Sometimes I wonder.

Looks matter. Period. Just be clean (brush your teeth, trim your nails, no spots on clother, no body odors), not overly conspicuous (too fat, too thin, to pale, to dark, to flashy), to dumpy), be asymmetrical (no hunch back, weird eye, drooping mouth/face) and don't ever be self conscious all at the same time.

Once we get past the package, who you are is who you are and who we are is who we are and we click or don't, no hard feelings, please...

Honestly though, I believe women when they say that looks aren't that important.

The problem is that "unattractive" guys lose confidence and self esteem. There are many other issues that go hand in hand with how someone looks... and these other issues are unattractive.

What it all boils down to is chemistry! Some of my most passionate relationships were w/ men who I would not consider my physical ideal. In addition, a couple of them had a bit of a belly on them. They were not obese, but they certainly could have been in much better shape. Nevertheless, who am I to talk, I am not perfect either. Of course, we all have an idea of what we think is attractive, which will get someone a foot-in-the-door... However, the chemical connection makes it work. I sense that you are looking for women online... Do not waste your time... Try to find time to meet women the old-fashioned way. At least then, you can tell right awayl if there is something special or not!