What the hell do I do now????

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Yellow-bellied Woodpecker
Yellow-bellied Woodpecker

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15 Oct 2007, 6:33 pm

Hey all,
I started a relationship with this aspie woman like a month ago. She had another girlfriend at the time, but the other girl was bi-sexual and looking for a man, so te aspie woman was looking for someone new too.
We all got along great, and I felt so relaxed being around someone of our kind.
And she's hot, and I usually don't get crushes like this.
Then a week and a half ago she calls to tell me she has just realized she's become obsessed with the girl she's with and doesn't want to see anyone else, even though that girl will eventually leave.
And so now I'm crushed. And obsessed. And really confused.
The worst part is every time I try to talk to her about it, I scare her off because i've become emotional, but how the hell can I NOT be emotional?

So she's hiding from me, and the more she hides the worse I feel inside, and the worse I feel inside, the worse I keep trying to find her, which just makes her hide more. I keep trying to walk away, but my OCD isn't letting me.



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15 Oct 2007, 8:34 pm

find another hot aspie Chickie and obsess about her.

the trick is to channel your ocd into a more acceptable ( to you and probably to her) venue.
I usually do this by plunging myself into politics or walking for breast cancer cures or what ever I can do to neutralize the longing and thinking and replaying scenes in my mind about the 'other.'

I certainly know your anguish and pain. Being able to feel what we can of joy in the other person we think that joy is contained IN that person, but it isn't. It is contained in us and that other person just tripped the trigger that let it out. They usual don't know a thing about it. We just think we can't live with out it what that other person brings to us. . but it is all inside us. if it were another person, we would have the same thing being brought out of us, too.

so. . cry, kick and scream, but do your new friend a favor and don't push.

all that lovely lusciousness is with in yourself.