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atashiscorpion
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13 Nov 2007, 12:30 am

I have a crush on someone who barely knows me. I,
on the other hand, know her very well, and have a huge
crush on her, as I have already stated. The attraction is
in no way sexual and entirely emotional, and I thusly feel
that I cannot live without her. My emotions about her will
not change, and I will someday end up dying of pain.
However, I cannot be her boyfriend because she already
has one and I don't want to take him away from her. I also
don't want to take her away from him. Additionally, even if
I did become somewhat assertive, she's in high school now
and I'm still in 8th grade. I may never see her again if I don't
contact her, but contacting her would make her feel weird
because she barely knows me. What does anyone willing to
read this and reply suggest?


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13 Nov 2007, 12:34 am

atashiscorpion wrote:
I have a crush on someone who barely knows me. I,
on the other hand, know her very well, and have a huge
crush on her, as I have already stated. The attraction is
in no way sexual and entirely emotional, and I thusly feel
that I cannot live without her. My emotions about her will
not change, and I will someday end up dying of pain.
However, I cannot be her boyfriend because she already
has one and I don't want to take him away from her. I also
don't want to take her away from him. Additionally, even if
I did become somewhat assertive, she's in high school now
and I'm still in 8th grade. I may never see her again if I don't
contact her, but contacting her would make her feel weird
because she barely knows me. What does anyone willing to
read this and reply suggest?


perhaps you should date other girls who you do know (or get to know this girl and then date her once you know she likes you although this isn't very likely to work out based on what you said). When I was in middle school I had feelings like that and they went away even though I was sure they wouldn't. Try dating other girls and don't be afraid to do so.


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13 Nov 2007, 1:11 am

You might not enjoy reading this, but I think its relevant, and maybe you can learn something from my own mistakes. When I was in seventh grade, a pretty, smart, young girl was sitting behind me in English class, and one day she asked me why I was sitting in front of her. I was too paralyzed to even mention that I thought we had seating assignments (though I never was sure if we did or not, after that.) Anyways, I always had a deep admiration for her, and I may have had a "crush," but I had never thought of it that way because I was sure that my chances were slim to none.

So, 4 years later, guess who asked me to sit next to her on a fifty mile bus ride? We ended up dating off and on for a while, and we had a lot in common, a lot of fun, too. We may not be soulmates, but I guess thats the idea...

Don't waste any time exploring this life.



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13 Nov 2007, 1:13 am

alex wrote:
atashiscorpion wrote:
I have a crush on someone who barely knows me. I,
on the other hand, know her very well, and have a huge
crush on her, as I have already stated. The attraction is
in no way sexual and entirely emotional, and I thusly feel
that I cannot live without her. My emotions about her will
not change, and I will someday end up dying of pain.
However, I cannot be her boyfriend because she already
has one and I don't want to take him away from her. I also
don't want to take her away from him. Additionally, even if
I did become somewhat assertive, she's in high school now
and I'm still in 8th grade. I may never see her again if I don't
contact her, but contacting her would make her feel weird
because she barely knows me. What does anyone willing to
read this and reply suggest?


perhaps you should date other girls who you do know (or get to know this girl and then date her once you know she likes you although this isn't very likely to work out based on what you said). When I was in middle school I had feelings like that and they went away even though I was sure they wouldn't. Try dating other girls and don't be afraid to do so.

Thank you very much. This is the most feasible resolution I've
ever been given for this dilemma. It is simple, easy to remember,
most likely easy to carry out, and likely to solve the problem as
far as I can perceive. I just hope there's someone else out there
who I'm capable of loving... Otherwise, again, I thank you immensely.


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atashiscorpion
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13 Nov 2007, 1:19 am

BrutalRhubarb wrote:
You might not enjoy reading this, but I think its relevant, and maybe you can learn something from my own mistakes. When I was in seventh grade, a pretty, smart, young girl was sitting behind me in English class, and one day she asked me why I was sitting in front of her. I was too paralyzed to even mention that I thought we had seating assignments (though I never was sure if we did or not, after that.) Anyways, I always had a deep admiration for her, and I may have had a "crush," but I had never thought of it that way because I was sure that my chances were slim to none.

So, 4 years later, guess who asked me to sit next to her on a fifty mile bus ride? We ended up dating off and on for a while, and we had a lot in common, a lot of fun, too. We may not be soulmates, but I guess thats the idea...

Don't waste any time exploring this life.


I see. That's a very touching concept and all, and I can relate well to it. However, I don't see the point you're trying to make here...
Wait... I see your point. Your point is at the bottom of your post. That's a nice way of putting something, but I don't see what you're
implying.


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13 Nov 2007, 11:46 am

Walk away.

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13 Nov 2007, 12:41 pm

try to forget about her if you can. If you continue to obsess, it may only get worse.


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