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This is just a curious question.

How can you tell if an Aspie Girl REALLY REALLY (loves) you?

_Eric

i dont know how to tell if ANYONE loves me.

I love you. There, there's one person who loves you. And I MEAN IT.

Everyone: Who else loves Sedaka???

I probably would if I went for the whole internet dating thing... but I don't, and I don't know her well enough.

just ask her.

what do you have to lose? besides your pride, reputation, and self-esteem?

I would ask her out, if she says yes then she's definatly interested, and if she says no then she probably doesn't love you.

I think that most of us who have anxiety towards the whole dating process have problems asking her out for many reasons:

1) If she says no, then it's conformation of our worst fear (unless this is something we're not taking seriously.)
2) If she says yes, then where do we go from there? Personally, I'm completely baffled as to what to do in a given social situation and I'm sure others would agree with me (though not all).

In either case, the end result is the same: You end up alone, a broken shell of your former self. Not a good position to be in in my opinion.

Not sure I ever got that one quite right in others eyes, but do love in my own, my feelings seem to change with my moods and being a little obsessive does not always help.

Truly I think we have to make up our own minds and if feel pressured will often back away..

If you want to be with someone then be honest, because they will either love you or not, in there own way...

Last edited by asplanet on 14 Nov 2007, 3:36 pm, edited 1 time in total.

What do you mean by really, really loves?

I don't get this obsession with the quantity of love. It doesn't make much sense to me. It is difficult question to answer it is likely dependent on mood and the way you think about things. You are talking about something created by a preference, a conscientious effort, a mindset and chemicals, etc. It probably helps if you can be a bit delusional. There is nothing wrong with that. I think love is a type it doesn't have to smack you in the face to be successful, I would have thought.

Probably best to find out if she likes you.

There's nothing about saying yes to going out that indicates someone loves you. A good relationship starts as a friendship that evolves into love.

My bf and i are currently in the "head over heels in love stage." We started going out place as just being friends. Then that evolved into becoming cuddle buddies, where we were both fully aware is friendly cuddling, not relationship cuddling. However, we soon found it harder and harder to part for the night, and so we had a discussion about the feelings we were developing for each other. We decided based on those feeligns that we should have a relationship but we were still a bit unsure about for it for the next month. If we had decided to wait to go out until we were in love with each other we'd still be in a somewhat cold, distant relationship intead of the "I know your parents are in the room, but I just have to wrap myself around you and hold" we are in now because we wouldn't have been providing ourselves with any opportunities for our love to grow and develop. We've went from being strictly friendship, to be unsure, to now discussing marriage. His parents expect us to live together as early as next summer, even if that means one of us will be following the other across the country.

Not me, I would never put the burden on my husband to replace my friendships. It was a quick and sure love at first sight. He's my lover, and I will bed him even when he's not being friendly. My love for him is bound with more than friendship, and it can't be adequately put into words. His presence without words and smell can be mesmerizing like a drug to settle me to sleep soundly at night. Sometimes, we find ourselves holding hands while sleeping. I will never abandon him, even if our marriage should fall apart.

I'm sorry, maybe I should be alittle more spiciffic.

We dated 2 or 3 times already, we hang out on the weekends, And we talk on the phone every night, plus we tell eachother how much we like eachother each time we talk.

I really enjoy it, it's really cool. I'm just curious on how to tell.

If your that close already, you should just ask - maybe go out somewhere nice to dinner and just discuss the subject.

But it does seem quite early on in a relationship to be doing this, not everyone fulls madly in love straight away, so do not push the subject too much, just enjoy the experience and really get to know each other, who knows what will follow....

But I have to admit being a Aspie myself find this subject very hard to discuss and often questions about love I find hard to answer and it does depend on my mood some what, so you may not get a straight forward response, but you should know at least if she really cares.

But as so early do not worry or take too seriously... for now...