Confused by this behavior

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I saw a tv show called "Shipmates" and a guy who had no learning disabilites said this:

"Women are like Parking Spaces, the good ones are taken and the rest are Hadicapped."

Now as a someone who has Asperger Syndrome, I was hurt by what he said and wondered why is it okay for men who don't have disabilities to abuse me?

Do they learn this behavior from tv shows, or is faulty parenting to blame?

I grew up in the 1980's and this tv show was in the 1990's when Reality Shows first became popular. The boys at school who didn't have any disabilities all treated me badly.

Does having a learning disability make you rotten inside, or is the problem with them?

OK first of all why take what any man says seriously ?? (sorry guys)
99.99% of them talk out of their arse anyway.

If I were them, I'd take a look in the mirror, 'cause ain't none of them prizes. Handicap ? Ha! They are missing an X chromosome.

its faulty parenting, peer pressure, and lack of reasoning skills really. So are missing 1 of those but the other 2 usually remain. In the end though it depends how you handle situations I myself used to get in bad situations with women due to them thinking they can walk all over me so when I take quick judgement and air a more confidant portion of myself they take notice. I get more dates that respect me for who I am. I do get less dates because some people male or female are just looking for someone to walk on to feel better about themselves but its more quality dates.

Do realize though that their are people like me who are just happy with who we are and don't have time for that bs. I've respected every girl I've been with and every girl if they had their chance would be back with me because how I treat them they never find anywhere else. In the end you gotta hold yourself up higher and love yourself without loving yourself you cannot love anybody else however cliche that sounds. Don't let people walk all over you and you'll narrow down the field of possibilities but the quality goes up.

I don't think he means to be rude to anyone disabled or with a handicap/learning disability/whatever. I think he just didn't think at all about what he was saying and just wanted a cheap laugh. Another reason not to watch TV.

I think it was just a little comment that he believed to be based in truth. Frankly, I agree with him a little. I would absolutely NEVER say handicapped, but what I've found is that when there is a girl that is "good" and "Single" the next question the male *always* has is "What's wrong with her?" Because in actuality if somebody was "good" and "single" they shouldn't be single!

So yes, what he said was pretty damn bastardy, but it was most likely an overgeneralization for the sake of making a point.

For instanec, the other way around. When people ask me why I didn't go to a party, I could (theoretically) say, "Because I'd probably end up in the corner stimming." Would I really? Lol to be honest, I have no idea, but boom, my point is made, it's interesting, and people believe it -- even if I don't.

I think that's all that guy was trying to do -- and I sincerely think he wasn't trying to hurt anybody in the process.

I think he means it, but from a male perspective.

To him, the girls that you want are all occupied and this leaves 'the rest' which you don't want.
The rest is available if you want them, and wanting them means you have a deficit of some sort because the guys can't get the girl they want.


It's a very extreme and black-white analogy but it holds truth if you look at it in a nuanced, general way.

I think of AS as a gift, now granted; that gift has a price, but it's a gift nonetheless,
*giggle* as a matter of fact I look for girls who have AS because of the whole being able to relate with me better than any neurotype can possibly think.

Yeah, let's paint all of a gender based on the jackassery of one moron.

Men aren't talking out of their ass 99.99% of the time. Both women and men have idiotic minconceptions about their counterparts.

He's not a dick because he's a man. He's a dick that happens to be a man. He's not abusing you personally, fer chrissakes.

Now, now, don't add to our already black stereotype, walk away, man, walk away!