Coupley things to do

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You know, I'm 21, and (BIG HEAD WARNINIG LOL) never had bad luck with women. My problem, everyone else I have been out with, I never really felt things for, you know, attracted etc but didnt FEEEELLLL anything for them. Currently I am with this great girl though, great on my reasons, I wont list them, but it's all weird and strange for no-feelings-me because I do feel so much for her, and I think my brain has gone into over drive trying to keep us happy..well ok that's a stupid thing to say because over the last..almost 2 months we've never really had a dull moment, but I am just worried it will die out. Because of this, I am starting to think what do couples to together.

We go shopping together, I live in Kent, England and there are places to go shopping and stuff, and there is always the cinema, but what else do couples do? They can't always go shopping and cinima on weekends surly. I mean I only live an hour train ride from Central London, I drive, I work hard and money isn't really a problem, but I am always thinking what can we do. I mean just sitting watching crappy tv or just us sitting in my car in a car park we always talk for hours which is great, but I can't but wonder, what else do couples do? i'm lost in a sea of emotion lol

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I am not sure what else you think couples do?
There are walks...if you can find somewhere nice to walk with her, that can be romantic?
Simply sitting together and doing your own things can be nice sometimes, or finding an interest that you might both like?
Do you both like games at all? board games or computer games? Those can be played together.
You could have bath/shower together. Massages.
Um... read the same book together.
Have music evenings where you both just listen to music together.
Go to a zoo together...


Being a couple means doing things you might normally do alone, with someone else, really.

maybe you could go away for a weekend break together.

do you prefer city or country pursuits?

ask her where else she might like to hang out.

Yeah I was about to suggest a weekend away too, that's a good idea.

YEah I am probably just being stupid, I guess I always think "what do "normal" couples do" and maybe I am just being boring, but maybe not lol, I guess I just get bit overly worried about me being an Aspie sometimes

my boyfriend [who has asperger's] and i like to:

-play scrabble, othello, etc.
-go for walks
-go roller skating [well, i enjoy this - he puts up with it]
-rent films/arrested development
-bake things
-talk
-find an interesting store or coffee shop and go in
-play bass

I happen to enjoy solitary (and sedentary) pursuits/activities/interests-such as drawing, reading, and writing. These aren't intended to exclude others, it's just that most of the things I like doing don't involve anyone else-though I generally feel uncomfortable around most folks (and when I'm not at home). My boyfriend enjoys doing all sorts of things, and doesn't mind interacting with people in public. He has wide tolerances & I have narrow preferences-and it is a wonder that we're together, because it would seem we're nothing alike-depending on how one measures that. The mundane aspects of daily life are shared experiences that we make the most of-they provide a common reference point. We write notes (and listen & talk) to each other, do laundry, feed the cat, watch tv, listen to music, sort paperwork, gather up the trash, & so on.

It's not stupid to ask, it's reasonable thought to have. Have had similar situation in my relationships, at certain point-of "great, we're together...now what ?". Guess that could be when a couple makes some change, depending on what they both want.

Here are some activities off the top of my head:
- Cycling
- Picnics
- Video game marathon, if she's into that kind of thing?
- Ice skating is fun, too, even if you're both kind of klutzy.

They're all pretty affordable, too.

nice to know that baking things is still considered good in a relationship.

What's othello?

I'm not that good with women, and I sometimes think there is more then just going to their place, or them coming to my place and watching a movie, though I do have an inground pool, and I enjoy swimming, I'm an ex cross country and track runner. I think the fun thing to do is walking, especially if you live on a seaside or water town. walking along the water. its cool.

it's a two person game with chips that are black on one side and white on the other and the goal is to make the board all one color, and that color/person wins.

Why's it called Othello then? what reference to the old Shakespearean play does it have that they can name a game after a famous drama?

Lots of good suggestions here.

I just wanted to add (didn't see it here)... just be together and do your own thing.

I have had many wonderful moments just sitting close to the one I love and read my book while she reads hers.
Sometimes just having a warm body (that I really like) against mine and being allowed to be in my own space mentally, is a wonderful thing to do.

Again, there are lots of things above I would be posting here, but this is the only one I thought of that was different.

ps, you're not stupid for asking. I think it's great that you are taking the time to consider alternatives.

Did anyone mention taking a class together? As long as it doesn't bring up some sort of rivalry which might cause bad feelings, I think taking classes together could be fun.
I have done this and the subjects can range from physical activity to a craft.
Gardening is cool because the two of you can work with your own strengths and combine them together to create something beautiful.

For me and my former wife, I was good at digging, building, and she was excellent with the plants themselves.
We could both be creative in our own ways, combine this creativity and come up with a beautiful (and when it was a vegetable garden - useful) product.

because the chips are black on one side and white on the other and the shakespeare othello was black and the chick was white.

ahh got some good responses, thanks everyone, makes me feel alittle better. You know I was talking to my gf last night when we went out shopping and, well basically I work in the north of england and live here when working, then come weekends, i drive back down south to see her and my friends and I said i dont think I will get that new car since its petrol and be too expensive so i'll keep my diesel, more money to spend on me and you and that and she said, we dont need money we have fun just sitting in your car most of the time, it was qutie sweet, made me feel better that actually, doing things are nice, but most of the time, just being with said person is good enough.

think that ties in with what most people have said here. You have things that you do, but most of life isn't "doing things" specifically

As for baking, I'm only 21 and I've always through that when I move in with a girl we would cook together, think it's great way to spend time, plus I like cooking my own food

The boyfriend I had that I really got on well with, we actually wrote an article together for a magazine we both wrote for. We each took it in turns to do a paragraph and then read while the other edited the last paragraph and added the next. I have great memories of doing that.

Another boyfriend took me up to the epsom derby, (horse racing), you can go and sit up on a hill and watch it for free. He was in charge of food, so he thought it would be nice to bring a pinapple. However, he had not brought a knife or considered at all how we might manage to cut it up and eat it. Never mind, it was the thought that counted. It was a nice day.

haha pineapple but no knife that is the thing I would do rofl sweet though. Yeah I heard of the epsom Derby, not too far from me