05 Jan 2008, 4:03 pm
I asked out a girl and she said yes. I really like her. She is 20, good looking, doesn't seem to mind my weird sense of humor, doesn't drink or do drugs, and seems to really like me. I only asked her because we were hanging out on a platonic basis, and eventually she seemed to be saying over and over "I hate being single...I want a relationship..." I thought she meant in general but I guess she meant me (I didn't pick up on this). Then I said "I think we should go out" and told her I thought she was attractive etc. and she said yes and sounded really happy. I hope I don't f**k this up, I haven't dated a girl in years, and am pretty inexperienced altogether. Now you can congratulate me 
05 Jan 2008, 4:06 pm
05 Jan 2008, 4:07 pm
Well done 
It is nice to know you can approach a relationship from the friends angle.
05 Jan 2008, 4:13 pm
It is nice to know you can approach a relationship from the friends angle.I didn't think this was possible myself. It is very confusing because I am always hearing that you can't be friends then date, or if you don't ask her out right away it will never happen. Very confusing.
05 Jan 2008, 4:16 pm
05 Jan 2008, 4:27 pm
It is nice to know you can approach a relationship from the friends angle.I didn't think this was possible myself. It is very confusing because I am always hearing that you can't be friends then date, or if you don't ask her out right away it will never happen. Very confusing.
I think this must be false, because how common its it you hear about someone who has a crush on a friend? Even that it is reciprocated.
What I think is true is there is a possibility you might creep them out, if you don't approach well. If anything if there is trust there (which is rare in my case) why not?
My sister has known and worked with her boyfriend for a number years.
05 Jan 2008, 4:44 pm
05 Jan 2008, 4:47 pm
Well done.
Don't f**k it up.
You probably should have a romantic discussion where you explain that you didn't know she was saying she was interested in you. Tell her that you need her to be more direct. Be nice/funny about it and she will.
Friends can become lovers. My wife and I were friends first... oh and we're still friends despite 10 years of marriage.
05 Jan 2008, 5:24 pm
Smelena
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05 Jan 2008, 6:06 pm
sinsboldly
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05 Jan 2008, 6:19 pm
hey, Space? Congratulations!
I would suggest you rent the DVD "BIG" with Tom Hanks. The scenes where he 'learns about women' and how he learns what he is 'supposed' to know and how he deals with all the immature emotions that were caused by never have 'dated'.
Just thought it might be a good refresher .
all the best,
Merle
05 Jan 2008, 6:22 pm
Brian003
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07 Jan 2008, 7:22 pm
Good Job!
07 Jan 2008, 11:56 pm
Now the tough part is actually dating and trying to having a relationship. Things are going fine, but it seems like my AS is already giving me troubles. We've been hanging out/doing things every day, but she'll say things like "I never know what you're thinking," "You never flirt with me," and "You're so hard to read!".... 
.... I dunno how to change any of this. I try to smile, not be monotone, be playful, initiate physical contact etc. but I don't know if it is enough. Oh well, I will just keep trying and listening, and if things go south, c'est la vie... I just hate the idea that my AS could ruin a relationship. I know it has before, but I thought know that I am more mature and self-aware, I could minimize it better. I just hope it is enough.
08 Jan 2008, 12:10 am
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