Does it mean anything?

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I work in an environment with 1 girl and 5 guys (2 gay) but am the only single one. Everyone gets on well, although myself and the other straight guys & girl get on slightly better. Recently I've noticed that the girl is touching me alot, mainly in excitement or sometimes mock excitement, and also makes the occasional suggestive comment towards me. We've worked together for over a year now but this has only happened over the last few months (coinsidently as she's been getting more disillusioned by her boyfriend) and doesn't seem to ever be done/said to any of the other guys.

I'm not too good at reading the subtulties of what people say and definately not good with touch in anything but romantic situations so was wondering if anyone here could help. Could it be that she's just more comfortable with me than she is the others and that's why they don't get the same or is it something else? Or am I seeing something in nothing?

I'd say that it probably does mean that she likes you, but if you like your job, you might not want to get involved with her...

Here is what gets me...You say you are not to good at "reading the subtulties of human behavior" BUT
"She is getting more disillusioned by her boyfriend."
-How did you know? If would seem subtle to me, unless she goes around saying "I'm growing disilusioned with X."
I think you're better at reading the subtulties of humnans then you think. Ask her on a date, in those words "Hey, lets go on a casual date and get some dinner or something. or a movie. or whatever." If she says yes, then you're good to go. If she says NO then she just wants a shoulder to cry on. As for how you feel like being a shoulder I'll leave up to you.

I agree with LVBen. It probably means something, though it's hard to be certain what.

Don't **** where you eat.

However you fill that in is probably correct.

At some point, she may become more forward. If she does, it's probably in your interests to simply say "We're co-workers."

call her & ask her if she wants to some over & watch the Super Bowl on Sunday.

Say, 'you wear your Patriots jammies & I'll wear my Giants boxers. I want to run my safety blitz on your offensive zone.'

Well she's working through her notice period so that wouldn't be an issue. Not sure if it's be a good idea anyway, I think we have a fair amount in common and she's attrative but she's with someone still and it's fairly serious - she moved to Manchester to live with him.



Her complaining about his failings more and more frequently told me, everyone at work has noticed too I think. One of the other guys has said to me a few times that he wonders why she's with him because of all she says in work, there's definately no subtlety in that.

Yeah... I'm English.

English? So?

Tell her you can 'bend it like Beckham'.

Don't think she's the type that would go down for that. As I said above, I don't think I should try to instigate anything anyway as she with someone.

I just want to interpret it better. When she does grab me I'm not really sure what to do with myself. I guess I'm asking so I know (if it does mean she likes me) for any future occasions, hopefully with single girls and maybe also so I know if it means she does for the future...

It is hard to read women. They're all over the map.

Yep! That's a major part of the problem!

I think, that touching you, is a sign of interest, probably sexual. If you're attracted to her, go for it. I'm about 90% sure she won't resist.

take it slow. Some women just like to touch people. If you're sympathetic to her, listen when she complains about her boyfriend, she may take you on 'the rebound'. It happened to me once (I can fake listening with the best of them...

But there's still the boyfriend. He may be the jealous type, and it's borrowing trouble. If it's meant to be, it'll stand a little waiting...

This is why I started the thread. I know some people like to touch and I'm terrible in reaction, I really don't know what to do myself when it happens as I can never be certain if there's any kind of meaning to it or if I 'should' do something in particular. I was really trying to get the advise of others on if it could mean anything else, or even nothing at all - which is why I included a little extra info about the other people in the scence.



I wasn't necessarily looking to start anything (at least whilst there's something else going on) but just seeing if anyone else (maybe one of the WP ladies?) may have thoughts on it that differ to whats been said already.

Appreciate the input I've had though guys - I'm not trying to discourage you!