Can an intense desire for friendship...

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...be a crush in disguise?

Yes.

I'm not sure on the context of the question, are you asking us if a member of the opposite sex fancies you because they desire to have an intense friendship with you?

It could be.
It could also mean the person who wants the friendship is just very lonely.

Or maybe if you desire to have an intense friendship with someone, you're actually having a crush on this person.

Yes, it's possible. (Both of these things). But it's also possible it's just that: a desire for friendship.

And maybe the friendship can evolve into something more after a while, but that depends on many factors.

What happened to me was I made a friend then the crush started then I got crushed by the person I had the crush on.It hurts even still.

Yeah, exactly. I mean if you feel a really strong desire to be friends, but could it be a crush, just that it doesn't feel like a crush in the classic sense, and so you misunderstand your own emotions?

or maybe you just feel a very strong bond with this person and you really don't want to let him/her go because you value his/her company?
Could be a crush in disguise, could also just be friendship I think.
Only time will tell...

I had a female friend that got married and she really enjoyed talking to me and she said I was gorgeous several times, her husband didn't want her to talk to me anymore so I haven't heard from her since. The funny thing is that she didn't find me physically attractive until years after I had befriended her, It was only until I started working out, getting heavily tattooed, growing a stubble and feeling more confident in myself that she became attracted so I wonder if attraction for some is based on projecting a certain image rather than connectivity. I've also had friendships develop into the girl wanting a relationship so I don't really know where this permanent friend zone thing comes from.

I've always wondered, do you think a friendship is platonic from the start? Or do you think a platonic friendship can turn into a sexual friendship with attraction? or do you think someone always holds those feelings of attraction from the initial stages?