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ok, so it seems that a lot of us here use the online dating thing to "filter" people first, and to to find people who matches your interests.
my personal experience has been to make my profile like an ad, i'm careful of what i say and try not to scare away people. and of course to be different so you stand out.

so anyway, i thought it'd be interesting to maybe has a peer-review of my profile. if you wouldn't mind, tell me what you think of it. do i sound too aggressive, too confusing, boring, weird..... whatever. i just want to know how other people see me since i have a problem seeing myself.

and if you want post your profile and i'll do that same.

***disclaimer***
no, i am not using this to find people here to date. and i wouldn't recommend anyone here use this thread to find others. i just want a way to have my profile reviewed by a semi-anonymous crowd that doesn't really know me. and i think others would also be interested in this idea.
any profile posted here, please use it only to review them and not to pick people up.
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ok, i'm starting it off and hope i don't get any weird freaky messages from crazy stalker AS girls, or guys either

ok, deep breath, hope i won't regret this...

Last edited by nbxyz on 17 Feb 2008, 12:05 am, edited 2 times in total.

I don't do dating sites, but you do have the right idea.

We have to log in. Can you just paste it here?

good point, sorry about that, let me try:

Self-Summary

Ok, so let start off with the most generic statement ever that all guys use when talking to girls, "I'm not like most guys, I'm different". Here's a few things that make me different from the status quo I guess of relationships/dating and girls:

I like independent women. I'm a work ahololic and don't have much time to share so I can't be with someone who needs constant attention. But when I do have time for you, I always make it count.

I don't have much common sense. I live in a very logical world and tend to think in black and white even if the grey is staring right at me. This makes me extremely honest and you'll know that whatever I say, I mean it.

I'm completely out of pop culture. I haven't listened to the radio in over 2 years, I see a movie maybe once every 3 months and malls scare me. To make it up I love discovering new music, going to festivals, Bonnaroo!! !, and thrift store shopping. If you need someone who wears A&F or Abercombie stuff, sorry.

I think too much. My mind is constantly racing with a gazzilion ideas and questions. Everything from philosophy, politics, history, business, religion, news, you know, boring topics. But at least if you're ever bored at anytime I'll share whats on my mind and there'll always be something to talk about.

I'm not much of a visual/beauty kind of guy. Please don't ask me if you look good every 3 hours. I don't like being tested and enjoy people being upfront. Honestly, I'll probably overlook your looks after meeting you for 5 minutes and thereafter concentrate on finding out what's in your head. I want to know all your dreams and desires and how I can fulfill them.

I'm not as aggressive as I tend to look, but I'm not that shy either. I just have different priorities. Yeh, sure, sex is great, but its greater with someone you care about. I've been too hurt to jump into things again. So don't rush me, or get frustrated with me. I care more about understanding what's in you, then being in you. But once we're there, again, lets make it count.

So why did I list all these negativity's that start with "I"? Well my answer is that I have no common sense and its probably pretty stupid to do this here. But just know these points and if you can deal with them. I seem to attract women most places I go, but they're always the wrong ones. So if this list doesn't bother you then continue reading and maybe we'll talk and exchange ideas sometime.

What I'm doing with my life

full time student, full time manager, and a full time entrepreneur. hence being a workaholic.

I've taken lots of martial arts classes (jeet-kune-do, boxing, haganah, mixed/freestyle), and currently take capoeira.

I do what feels good.

I'm really good at

Cooking. I learned a lot from my grandmother who's a brazilian chef. My idea of a rainy day is stay in the kitchen and cook everything I have available for hours while listening to music.

First thing people notice about me

My eyes, and hair if its long. People say I look like Vince from Entourage a lot, or that I'm in a band or something.

People usually say I resemble someone else that they know.

Although I am Brazilian and have a permanent tan, I get confused for Indian or other Spanish ethnicities.

I spend a lot of time thinking about

1. How I am one person, with infinite ability to learn and interact with anything else. And theres 6 billion other people out there with the same infinite abilities. How are these people, what do they do with their life, what do they care about, why is the world so big, will I ever meet all 6 billion people, do they think the same way I do, do they even care for me, do they want to know what others are thinking of them..........

2. What events in history could have been altered or happened differently and what outcome would they have in our society today.

I'll try not to scare you anymore.

On a friday night, I am

Depends on what I feel.

If I want to be reckless I'll go to a bar/party, or get a few beers and invite friends over.

If I want to be productive, I'll work late, get home and either catch up on old errands/chores, write a bit, work on my business plan, read, cook.

If I want to be spontaneous, I'll go somewhere completely new and just experience what its like to be there.

Or I'll just take the night off and reflect on what's happened in the past week and ponder on the things that might have bothered or intrigued me previously.

Don't be upset cause I don't want to go out on Friday night cause I want to stay in, play guitar, play with my dog, and watch a special on the Galapagos Island. Although you're welcomed to join me, if dogs, music, and documentaries about weird animals entertain you though.

You should message me if

You've read this much and feel that I can offer something no one else can, then send me a message lets talk. Yes, I am not picky, so I like to meet everyone and afterwards we'll see if we match, no commitments needed to talk right?

You forgot the most important point: a good picture.

dear god, the man's obsessed!

Some of it sounds like you're apologising for yourself. I would cut out all of it that says 'don't expect me to do/be this that or the other'. Write about what you are, not what you aren't.

what, my peace sign isn't enough???
what kind of world is this were we can't understand each other based on our choice of avatars?

hum, i don't feel like going through the work of copy/pasting pics here, they're on the profile. i'm looking for content review now. maybe later we can have a thread on our sexy poses

try not to put yourself down so much - dont say what your not like- just stick to postives such as- cut out " if your wanting abercrombie types you'l be disapointed" and add more of "i have exotic good looks". (hope that makes sence ) and dont say your a workaholic, it will make you look like you have issues. good luck

I'll see if I can fix this up a tad:

Self-Summary

Ok, so let start off with the most generic statement ever that all guys use when talking to girls, "I'm not like most guys, I'm different". Here's a few things that make me different :

I like independent women. I work long hours, and have little free time. But when I do have time for you, I always make it count.

I am extremely honest and you'll know that whatever I say, I mean it.

I love discovering new music, going to festivals, Bonnaroo!! !, and thrift store shopping.

My mind is constantly racing with a gazzilion ideas and questions: Everything from philosophy, politics, history, business, religion and news. If you're ever bored at anytime I'll share whats on my mind and there'll always be something to talk about.

I want to know all your dreams and desires and how I can fulfill them.

I care more about understanding what's in you, then being in you. But once we're there, lets make it count.

I seem to attract women most places I go, but they're always the wrong ones.

What I'm doing with my life

full time student, full time manager, and a full time entrepreneur.

I've taken lots of martial arts classes (jeet-kune-do, boxing, haganah, mixed/freestyle), and currently take capoeira.

I do what feels good.

I'm really good at

Cooking. I learned a lot from my grandmother who's a brazilian chef. My idea of a rainy day is stay in the kitchen and cook everything I have available for hours while listening to music.

First thing people notice about me

My eyes, and hair if its long. People say I look like Vince from Entourage a lot, or that I'm in a band or something.

People usually say I resemble someone else that they know.

Although I am Brazilian and have a permanent tan, I get confused for Indian or other Spanish ethnicities.

I spend a lot of time thinking about

1. How I am one person, with infinite ability to learn and interact with anything else. And theres 6 billion other people out there with the same infinite abilities. How are these people, what do they do with their life, what do they care about, why is the world so big, will I ever meet all 6 billion people, do they think the same way I do, do they even care for me, do they want to know what others are thinking of them..........

2. What events in history could have been altered or happened differently and what outcome would they have in our society today.

I'll try not to scare you anymore.

On a friday night, I am

Depends on what I feel.

If I want to be reckless I'll go to a bar/party, or get a few beers and invite friends over.

If I want to be productive, I'll work late, get home and either catch up on old errands/chores, write a bit, work on my business plan, read, cook.

If I want to be spontaneous, I'll go somewhere completely new and just experience what its like to be there.

Or I'll just take the night off and reflect on what's happened in the past week and ponder on the things that might have bothered or intrigued me previously.

On Friday nights I often like to stay in, play guitar, play with my dog, and watch a special on the Galapagos Island. You're welcomed to join me, if dogs, music, and documentaries about weird animals entertain you.

You should message me if

You've read this much and feel that I can offer something no one else can, then send me a message lets talk.

Reading all this makes me wonder if the honest approach is a good one. I seriously believe that people on dating sites do not value honesty in the slightest. Anyone who even attempts light self-deprication is seen as a bit of a saddo, or at least that's how I have experienced it. I've tried it before and should you actually get any attention you get earnest questions like "why do you have to put yourself down?" like ignoring your bad points is a good thing. After all they'll come out eventually and they'll be "heh, if I'd known this about you earlier...." so basically you can't win.

hey, thanks for all your inputs. this is exactly what i wanted to read. i honestly never felt that those descriptions "put me down". I really just thought that by stating my negativity's, and putting a twist on them, i'll find someone that won't mind those issues.

i will definitely read over everyone's comments again and redo my descriptions, there's a lot of good points here that i never thought of.

and in regards to being honest on the profile, since i made that switch, i actually got 3 messages from women in my area that said my profile was different that they felt i was a real person by being upfront. now out of those 3, 2 i talk to regularly online (1 lives away, the other we're gonna meet up later, just talking now), and the 3rd one i met once but she didn't work out.
so honesty does work out sometimes.

besides i can't help myself, i don't think i'd be able to write a fake personality on a profile, then try to pretend to be that person later on. all my faulty relationships ended because of us not being upfront from the beginning. i want to start it right for the next one.

Declaring yourself to be a "workaholic" is declaring yourself to be diseased.

If you say that you are a full time student, full time manager, and a full time entrepreneur, you already said that you have a very full schedule, without declaring yourself to be diseased.

I like the part "I work long hours, and have little free time. But when I do have time for you, I always make it count."