How can i cope with dating when i have these factors?

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Hi, i've been on here for a while, first post here.

I live in a very weird part of New York: Rochester. As tough times are as is, there aren't really any places for me to find communities and groups with people that have aspergers. Let alone School of the Arts, my school, has a sense of knowing what it is, but relationshipwise, it's a whole 'nuther story. It seems in my eyes that everyone wants the guy to strike them first, metaphorically speaking. They want the guy who has the money, the face, etc. [forgot to mention that i was 15 going on 16] I don't want that, im fine just where i am. Some of my friends have tried to "hook me up," but in reality ain't crap gonna happen. It seems as if no1 is interested in me. I'll be lucky if I even get a small "hi." I can't keep a conversation going, and i can't find the interests of a woman. You have seen the question, i need help. Please.

Welcome to WP!

Most women, certainly I do, want to feel financially and emotionally secure. My advice would be to keep watching interactions around you, read all the articles on this site, learn a skill that makes decent money, learn to look into people's eyes without staring, and practice being friendly in non-dating situations. Also, find a cause to work for in addition to your paying job. Eventually you will become attractive to some women.

Is rochester really that weird? I haven't spent much time around there... my dad did though, in the hospital.

I'm glad nobody ever tried to set me up, as that would've been a disaster. Some girls did seem to like me... definitely none that were my type though. I've heard that school and serious relationships are best left separated. Also, if you if you do have a 'ship and break up, you'll have to see them everyday in school...

I went up there once (have a friend going to RIT), and it wasn't that bad of a place if you ask me...