What am I doing wrong?

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For a long time now Ive given up on falling in love ever since I left this place thinking ana went off with that maduk character. I still have a strong sex drive though. But heres the thing, I just got back and it turns out she might want to start something again.. I just dont know what to think. Before I came back I recently joined these sex finder sites (and actually payed for them!) and I couldnt even at least find someone for sex. I put my pic (all different kinds tehe) and they are all good pics Im anything but ugly.. I filled out the forms saying what I want yadayada.. But still after a long time Ive still come up with nothing even after asking people if they want to hook up. Right now I dont even think ana would like me enough to have a relationship.. Why would she if I cant even get something as low as a skank how could I get someone as great as her to like me. Lets face it, Im never gonna get a wife or anyone who will care about me deeply, I cant even get someone to screw me and Im good looking! But you guys are all gonna be like, well use your hand but that barely even does anything for me anymore.. Does this mean Im too sexually oriented? Is that so wrong? Well, its driving me insane.. At the same time I guess I should be lucky cause I have far less things to worry about than I used to..(nothin goin on in my life right now) Right now this is just whats been bothering me the most lately and I dont know what to do about it.

Except for the sex finder sites, I am in a similar situation regarding someone I am interested in.

Let me know if I can be of help.

never say never. Maybe you're just looking in the wrong places. Sex is great, but it's a lot better with a little love attached.

You're thinking with the wrong head. = =

Dude, nothing good can come from trolling online for sex. Let me ask you, what decent, or even good-looking woman would go on that kind of site?

Women, especially decent looking ones, do not have to go online to find sex-partners. They practically have to beat men off on a daily basis and all it'd take is a trip to a club to find a guy for them.

Only women you can expect to find on those sites are drug-addict women, pyschos, or the fat and the fugly.

You are good enough for me. I'm just in a dilemma between you and adverb. You're my age but Adverb understands and agrees with my theory which is my life... first person I felt okay telling it to, first person in my life. Both of them will do anything to help Aspies and get out of non-Aspie-friendly environments... both are the hottest guys I've ever seen... both have nice names... both have nice talking/writing styles... username has interests I used to have and adverb has interests I have... username has even worse social anxiety as I did and there will be no pressure from him, but Adverb is over his and now TRIES to look wierd but still looks cool...


Rich, you did not do anything wrong!


I can't believe I'm in this situation; of all the dilemmas I thought I would have I never thought I would have THIS one (I thought I'd be alone forever) but I'm still not surprised. Hindsight is 20/20 I guess!


(Adverb and username are my best friends, then comes rexmas, then MADDuck, and then come Cultus_Diabolus and Aradford, then the others.)

Awe thanks I dont want to pressure you into something if you want someone else.. Im just saying that even though I like you a lot, I also respect you enough to want you to make your own decision in this.. Obviously lol. I can feel very hopeless sometimes, please excuse how I was talking before.. To be completely honest I would be more happy seeing you happy with the right decision, whatever that may be.

And yes, you are definently looking in all the wrong places.

The internet is the last place to look. Seriously, do you guys have some kind of e-love triangle going on here? that's pretty funny ;/ It's the internet.

I think Aspies feel online is a great way to communicate to the opposit sex, since we generally are better at writing things down then we are actually communicating it.

BUT, I just don't see the benifits in online dating. Your talking to complete strangers that you can't even trust what they are saying is true. For all you know, it's a man your talking to. Ever watch "To Catch a Preditor?"

Also, like I said above. If a woman has to go online to find men, there is a big problem.

Actually, we do.


I think username is seducing me again, away from adverb.


I have problems, Grant? I know that. Why are you here in the dating section of WP? Do you have problems?

Do you see me looking for dates?

And my comment wasn't directed to Aspie women. Non Aspie women should not be having problems finding men, or having to go online to find them.

IF they do, there is something wrong. Either they are very un-attractive (it may be shallow but I'm being realistic here), or have a very replusive personality, or they have other baggage and drama that keeps men away.

No ana, Im not trying to pull anything here, its all true. Id rather see you happy with the right person than otherwise. If you feel the better guy for you is adverb or w/e, then by all means go for it!
Just make sure he wont lock you in a closet like maduk would rofl

LOL, maybe a bathroom. MADDuck is cleaner than you give him credit for.


And I didn't mean you were trying to seduce me; I meant I just got seduced by you as soon as you got back. The way you were so defensive about MADDuck calling my mother and that. And just being on the board posting and how you actually decided to come back rather than abandon us! I also feel comforta le with you because I know you would never expect me to even get out of bed in the morning, or comb my hair, or have table manners, or take courses, or get a job, or stand up straight, or wear certain clothes, or loe weight, or anything like that. I am likewise to you. I wouldn't care if you dyed your skin green or were missing half your teeth or dropped out of college 10 more times, or were committed to a psych ward or went to jail for not paying parking tickets, or anything. I think it's disgusting expecting things of people other than what they're capable of and ready to do. That's why I feel a connection to you.