Question about engagement...

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I don't live in a state where there they allow gay/lesbian marriage. I,in fact,live in the most homophobic state.

A friend of mine told me that my girlfriend of 2 months MIGHT be going to propose to me on my 18th birthday this April.

How will I know if I should say yes? Does age REALLY matter?


-SpaceCase

EDIT:

I should probally say that most of the gay couples down here have "commitment ceremonies". First,we'll do that,then get officially married in a state that DOES allow it.

of course age matters!

being almost 18 ( happy birthday!! ) you probably haven't had a lot of time to sort things out on your own. To get your own place and pay your own bills and do what ever it is that brings home the grocery money. That helps a lot to sort your self out as a person, too.

you might want to take it one day at a time and just ponder your options. Love is still love even if it waits a while.

all the best,

Merle

Good luck with that~

Homophobes should go die. I mean, who cares about your sexual orientation? It's not a big deal. I just wish people would learn to accept others for who they are...

You know, I WAS homophobic, but now I'm not really that way anymore.

so there is hope!

Well, getting over fears doesn't happen overnight. It's a slow process. It took me a while, but thanks to all I've experienced last year, I'm not really that homophobic anymore.

how can you decide you want to spend the rest of your life with someone after knowing them for only 2 months is beyond me

i still say it's a good thing!

im glad i'm not married to the person i was in love with @ 17......

still love the guy for all that we had and still wish him the best... but there are lots of things to consider... it seems to have taken me at least 3 yrs to figure out why any one of my relationships wouldn't work.

I am proud to live in a country that has allowed same-sex mariages for longer than I have been alive!

Age doesn't matter. Maturity DOES, are you ready to get married at 18 then go for it, if not, then waite.
Waiting may be a good option in either case, untill you know that it is going to last.

How will you know if you should say yes? You just will, don't be afraide to take your time thinking about it.

I agree with this, its not about age at all, its about love. Love is one of the most powerful emotions a human can feel, and trust me you will know if you are in love. Take your time if she does ask you, you don't need to respond right away, not unless you really know for sure that you do want to spend the rest of your life with her. The only other advise that I can give you is, make it a long engagement and make sure it really is the real deal before you actually get married. Good luck to you and your girl.

You are expecting from homophobes the acceptance you are not willing to grant to them. This is hypocrisy.

No kidding. I'm not homophobic, because I'm not scared of gays, but I do not agree with it. So I guess I should go and die.

There are two kinds of people in this world that I hate... People that are intolerant of other peoples' cultures... AND THE DUTCH!

PS: I don't really mean that... it's just a quote from the third Austin Powers movie...

its up to you
if you love her and want to marry her
marry her
its your choice

thank you, the_incident, this is exactly what I thought! Especially when followed by 'I just wish people would learn to accept others for who they are...