I got rejected

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Well I asked a girl out I liked at work, she was a bit older than me. It took me 7 months to do so, I asked on facebook as I'd be to scared to in real person. She replied with saying basically your a nice sweet guy, but I'm to busy to date (which prob is true, as she's a team leader at CFA, and in college), and that she wasn't really attracted to me, but she did agree to go out to dinner with me as a friend before she leaves the job. So do you guys think this is good or bad? I can't decide. I mean it' bad she said no, but still she was nice and didn't ignore me. (although most girls are nice) what do you guys think?

Bad luck Its horrible getting rejected- all the guys Ive ever liked have rejected me. I think everyone must be going around with unrequited love and propersitioning the wrong people. Its good she was nice about it but be careful about missinterpreting her being friendly, with her wanting to be your girlfriend- Ive done this too- I thought a guy liked me as more than a friend when he was trying to be nice about not wanting to date me . Your more likely to find someone who likes you back if you keep up the courage to keep asking girls out good luck on the next girl

Don't fall in the trap of hope. Once the girl tells you that she's not attracted to you then she's not , and she will never be attracted to you even after having a strong friendship with her.

And since I am 100% sure that you are going to fall in the hope trap ,like most guys, ...then no. Don't go out her with to dinner , don't form any bond of friendship with her.

I just got rejected last week. It really hurt, especially since I thought she would be "the one".

Besides , asking a girl out on facebook makes you look like a loser , I am not saying that you are a loser but this how most girls would perceive you.

Nah, no hope trap. I know how she felt actually before I asked, but I was tempted to and did ask just in case, I did get my hopes up, but no. I do think i should be her friend though. No need cutting that off, I know she doesn't like me.

1. Congratulations - it takes courage to ask someone out - even on facebook.
2. Seconded - everyone else says don't mistake "NO" for "Maybe" ... It's NO.
3. Pay particular attention to what she said about you;

"your a nice sweet guy, but I'm to busy to date"

She could have said Flat No but took the time to tell you that you were very nice/sweet. It means that she thinks you'd be accepted elsewhere easily. ie: Your personality/looks etc aren't mitigating against you.

Just enjoy your night out - don't try for anything else.

You should thank her for her caring response and tell her how difficult it is to ask someone out and how scared you were of rejection.

If you want (and only if you both feel comfortable), you could ask her advice on what you should do to find a date. She may be able to help you.

BUT DON'T ASK HER OUT - use the word FRIEND a lot to reassure her that you're not ignoring her words and trying anyway.