guys: do women ever say that you're boring?

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24 Feb 2008, 9:37 pm

^^topic.



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24 Feb 2008, 9:38 pm

the ones that stick around long enough...;)



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24 Feb 2008, 9:51 pm

I'll ask the next one when she wakes up. :oops:


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24 Feb 2008, 10:19 pm

I take a long time to warm up to people, and this can come across as boring. Mile wide and inch deep doesn't describe well my interpersonal reach. When women say you're boring, might they really mean something else? I don't think there's anything accidental about how the conversation often goes to my career details when I meet a woman. I have learned that this can have a purpose other than disclosing the actual details of "what I do", and for that reason I have started to regard my salary, terms of employment, business deals, intellectual property, etc. to be more private than others might regard these items. For the most part, real life doesn't go the way of James Bond. Unrealistic expectations are sure to disappoint, but I'm not sure there's anything we can do about that but hope that the women in our age group will learn to work with the real people they find as they gain more life experience.



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24 Feb 2008, 10:39 pm

Yes, but I don't exist just to amuse people - it's a bit of a shallow attitude. It doesn't happen often.



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24 Feb 2008, 11:22 pm

Many women call me boring. My mom calls me boring.

My impression is that most women either hate me a little or they hate me a lot.



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24 Feb 2008, 11:29 pm

I think I can be boring.



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24 Feb 2008, 11:39 pm

Well, I know of two definitions of 'boring'... and when talking about women... I suppose either one would work! :twisted:

but... when speaking about women not finding me interesting, my former wife certainly told me so.

She would come home from work, sit across the table and go on about the patients she saw, or their parents/grandparents, teachers, etc.
Once she was done, I might start up talking about something I found interesting and I would notice she either wasn't looking at me at all, or she was talking to our daughter, basically ignoring me.
When I quit talking or made a comment about not being listened to, she would tell me, "I don't find the stuff you talk about interesting!".

So, I guess I was boring... in that sense.


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25 Feb 2008, 12:19 am

OH! Yeah! I always do that! Ive only found two people that can stand me recently, and they both are pretty cool.



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25 Feb 2008, 2:32 am

Weird, I get the opposit. Most girls I know are first interested in me because they find me facinating because of my Aspie traits. Like not looking them in the eye, being a bit ackward, and not giving them the predictable attention most guys give them.

But in a relationship, this kind of stuff and unpredictable behavior confuses them to the point get frusterated and can't handle it.



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25 Feb 2008, 4:23 am

Supposedly yes.



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25 Feb 2008, 9:20 am

Yes. Fortunately there are a few women who like boring men.


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25 Feb 2008, 3:09 pm

It depends on their definition of boring.
Some would have quiet people as boring, others would see people who talk far too much boring.
There are times I catch myself talking to a girl and realise that what I'm saying really is far too parochial or niche for anyone to find interesting.

Making sure it's not just a one-way conversation would bea surefire way to avoid being boring.



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25 Feb 2008, 3:26 pm

being called boring by the right kind of person means that you have very likely made something right. :)

for example, if a persons definition of fun is to get out on every weekend to drown their head in booze, then im definitely boring and proud to be so.



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25 Feb 2008, 7:21 pm

Few have said it to my face, but pretty much all women find me boring - which is fair enough, as I find most people boring. One girl recently told me I am 'such a goody' - OK, that's one name crossed off my list of 'people I might want to socialise with.'
I agree with gekistu.


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25 Feb 2008, 9:34 pm

Definitely yes. I mentioned this once before, but the last date I went on, I was considered rude and boring because I didn't immediately jump in to making out with the bi chick being passed around, taking body shots off of my date, and generally acting like a complete retard.

I will gladly do something fun and exciting with whoever I go out with, but it has to be something that involves being sober, and is perfectly legal. I've asked quite a few girls I've dated if they'd find a motorcycle ride out on a winding back country road in nice weather to be acceptable.

Apparently, though, women don't find dates exciting unless the guy is doing everything the girl tells them not to do.

So, I've come to the conclusion females don't know what they want, and therefore don't have a say.


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