What my real problem is with girls.........

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I really dont think asking out or getting the courage to ask a girl out is really a big deal for me. I beleive that I am cabable of doing it. I have never asked a girl out before but that doesnt questions whether or not I beleive i have the ability to.

My problem is that basically I just dont connect with people. I just dont bond with people. I never seem to get close to people nomatter how I try. Just groups of people in general. Groups that contain all guys or mostly guys and a few girls or half and half. Iv never really been a part of those friendships. I basically am not close to anybody even though I try.

How can I get to the point of asking a girl out or start making moves when I cant connect with people in general? I dont feel close to anybody right now.

does anybody know waht I mean?

Yes I have tried very pathetically to date and have never been successful. I am decent looking and would make a loving, caring and good providing husband and father someday but to tend to be distant and like you dont connect at more deeper levels. Add to that the problem with not liking touch of any kind and so any girl that comes into contact with me (99% of the time) thinks I dont like them, and its never the case.

I have been hanging out with an old girlfriend for a while, and any normal dude my age woulda hit it off, and I want to so badly, but I have the same problem as you.

I fear as a result I will die alone and my great wish in life, to have kids and provide for them well, may be shattered, its not something I enjoy thinking about really...

I can relate to that. I feel distant all the time.
By now i doesnt even try.

There's a girl i really like and i now she likes me as well. Once we decided to try going out, but we were even more distant after that then before. So we broke up in three days.

If i couldnt be with her i dont see much chance being with anybody else.

I think my only chance is to meet an aspie girl. She would know how i feel. NT people cant understend the way we feel as i see.

I really would like to have a family. I think i would be a good father.

Here I can definitely commisserate with you guys. I have been in that situation myself many times, and I know how painful it can be. There have been times when I felt as if I didn't want to live if I couldn't be in a meaningful relationship with a female. As far as being on the outside (of a group) and looking in, Ive endured that pain also.

Once or twice I have been in love, and I take consolation in the fact that no matter what I won't die a virgin. Yes, I have been there too. For a very brief time, I was considered the johnny-come-lately stepdad. We did have long-term plan for eachother, but it was not meant to be. It is a very long story ...

And I thank my Maker for the experiences I have had so far.

I wish you luck, fellas. Make good decisions.

my problem is that i never get anywhere close to being connected with people..............so..............im distant to guys and girls

I've got a nasty feeling I'll end up a brooding, pathologically-depressed loner.

I mean, that's what I am now. Why bother changing?

My problem is that I'm physically 20, although my personality alternates between that of a 12-year-old and a 40-year old. One moment I can be very immature, not wanting to do any kind of house work, for example (although this has diminished some in recent years), and the next I'm thinking of settling down in life. I've never really been well-connected to my own age group, but have had better connections with both much older and much younger people...