The women I meet cause me to be confused and what not

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Ok so not to seem like I have an overly inflated ego but I'm told I'm fairly attractive to others

I've found this to be true for both women and men although I'm straight myself. I just have

these problems I'll only mention a few if I can manage it.


1) This girl in one class seems to have a big crush on me problem is she has a boyfriend, now I

think she just likes attention from me b/c she thinks I'm cute which is fine and I'm willing to play

that game b/c I don't really have any feeling for or against her (she's cute but not serious material)

How my I go about being a friend with such a girl?


2) Another girl in same class is kinda hefty but carries it well and seems to like be although I

don't think I like her but might date her to just have a girl any thoughts on this?


3) Another girl in diff. class is really super freakin cute red head tiny which I like dunno why and

I'm pretty sure she likes me b/c she looks at me alot and well other more subtle things that

I know many aspies can't pick up on I myself am not completely confident of my skillz in this

matter. Now I want to talk to her but don't know how to develop a meaningful convo that will

lead to say a lunch at the BK near school or something. I can start one but don't know how to

develop them.


4) Another girl that liked me last semester doesn't seem to like me anymore b/c I'm odd she

seems to want to stay friendly but keeps making rude comments under her breath about my

oddness what should I do? (note that I can't avoid her b/c were in a small club and I really like

it b/c it's an environment club and I really like to help the environment and she is the organizer

for the club) oh and I don't think she hates me but just wants me to back off on the flirting b/c

she isn't into me anymore which is fine just wanna know some helpful info to deal with her now..


Well I guess that is all I can manage to form into effective questions at the moment any help is

much appreciated!! !

OK, I'll give them a shot:
1. If you're not interested in her romantically, just treat her like one of the guys.
2. Nothing wrong with dating, that's how we find out what we like in a relationship. However, you shouldn't date her if you don't like her at least a little.
3. Start by discussing class, then start asking her about herself.
4. If you're flirting with her then stop it. The next time she makes a negative comment about you tell her that you find her comments offensive.

did you ever have to make up your mind?
Pick up on one, and let the other one ride... - Lovin' Spoonful...

Try dating the ones you're interested in first.

...and everyone gets confused by women....
supposedly, women are often confused by men...

The only one I actually carry a candle for is the little red head she walks in front of me on MWF

b/c of the classes we have and she always walks by alone but I'm still to nervous to say

anything b/c I don't know for certain if she likes me and if she doesn't I'm worried I won't notice

the signs and make her hate me uhhhhggg it is very upsetting especially b/c I actually like her

the others are more like cute date friends but her I really like. Sad part is I don't know her

name yet b/c the instructor does assigned seating and no roll call can't even move over to

her...

OH and another important question I waved and smiled at an old female instructor but I

did it poorly and nervously so she thinks I like her pllzzzz any idea on how to handle that jeez it

weirds me out the way she looks at me eyyyuck

Why not tell that little redhead that it would be cool to have lunch together sometime? Trust me, redheads can be fun!! !!

one of the things that's hard for us (and no picnic for NTs) is that to play the game, you have to be prepared to lose. If you don't ask, you don't get anywhere. If you do ask, learn from the ones that say no as well.

Being turned down is something people of both sexes contend with. It may be hard, but you pick yourself up, and on to the next one. Don't rush through all your choices, but one by one, ask, and see what happens. Unless you have a developing relationship, if it looks good, and you make each other happy, there's no reason you can't date more than one. That's what this time of life is for. Enjoy the buffet before you get to the 'meatloaf again?' period called marriage...

I mostly agree with Complex except for...