16 Mar 2008, 5:41 pm
16 Mar 2008, 5:47 pm
Greedy. How many do you want? 
Here is a good start. Just post more often in the forums. You're sure to interact with interesting people and some of them will be cute girls.
Nerdy activities like D&D, gaming groups, book clubs, etc. can be good ways to meet women who are a little socially awkward.
16 Mar 2008, 5:54 pm
16 Mar 2008, 6:06 pm
You won't see me complaining. 
I guess it's a problem. But hanging out with girls in those situations provides you with some experience interacting with the opposite sex, at the very least.
16 Mar 2008, 6:09 pm
gwenevyn wrote:
You won't see me complaining.
Of course you wouldn't...
If only I was able to develop an interest in fashions... but alas, I find the whole concept of fashion to be repulsive...
16 Mar 2008, 6:17 pm
16 Mar 2008, 6:27 pm
ToadOfSteel wrote:
gwenevyn wrote:
You won't see me complaining.
Of course you wouldn't...
If only I was able to develop an interest in fashions... but alas, I find the whole concept of fashion to be repulsive...
If it's any consolation... I know a man who took an interior decorating course at college for the purpose of meeting women. There were no single women in the class! They were all married women and gay men.
Complex has a good idea. Lots of times in the past, in the sci-fi aisle at the bookstore, I have wished that the shy, slouching boy next to me would just effing look at me or ask me what book I'm searching for. (Nowadays if I didn't have a boyfriend and was looking for one, I think I'd just start the conversation myself... but it only took me 25 years to get to that point!) If you go into a place like that and take more risks than your peers, you might be rewarded.
16 Mar 2008, 6:41 pm
Complex wrote:
Something that I have noticed in the past few years is with the rise of films adapted from a comic book/graphic novel source, the number of girls at comic shops and conventions has risen significantly. I am unable to tell if these girls are Aspie or not, but something you may wish to investigate nonetheless.
Except that I'm not that kind of nerd
When young women start going to Microcenter to buy computer parts, let me know...
16 Mar 2008, 6:47 pm
16 Mar 2008, 6:53 pm
ToadOfSteel wrote:
gwenevyn wrote:
If you go into a place like that and take more risks than your peers, you might be rewarded.
You might also get a slap in the face. Is it worth it to expend energy if you're pretty sure you're just going to get rebuffed anyway?
Nobody sane will slap you in the face for saying "Hey, is that a Robert Heinlein book you're looking at? I really liked Stranger in a Strange Land."
I'm not saying go grab girls' butts.
And yeah, you'll get rejected more often than not. Sometimes you'll get a bit of polite discussion. Sometimes you'll get a flirty smile and then you'll freeze up and let her go. And sometimes you'll start something more! Even a short conversation that leads nowhere and doesn't even get you a number or email address will leave you feeling more confident.
On the other hand... when you don't reach out at all, you get nothing!
16 Mar 2008, 7:01 pm
gwenevyn wrote:
Greedy. How many do you want?
all of them lol
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16 Mar 2008, 7:09 pm
ToadOfSteel wrote:
Complex wrote:
Something that I have noticed in the past few years is with the rise of films adapted from a comic book/graphic novel source, the number of girls at comic shops and conventions has risen significantly. I am unable to tell if these girls are Aspie or not, but something you may wish to investigate nonetheless.
Except that I'm not that kind of nerd
When young women start going to Microcenter to buy computer parts, let me know...
most women order online because when we go into a brick and mortar store we are treated like idiots by men who have had little contact with women in the first place, let alone with shoppers looking for something specific.
I have gone in for parts, or software, or even whole systems and have had to walk out because I somehow did not 'fit the profile'.
so there is an idea! When a woman DOES come in, treat them like intelligent human beings and give them a break if they don't want the latest gaming equipment.
good luck!
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16 Mar 2008, 7:25 pm
gwenevyn wrote:
ToadOfSteel wrote:
gwenevyn wrote:
If you go into a place like that and take more risks than your peers, you might be rewarded.
You might also get a slap in the face. Is it worth it to expend energy if you're pretty sure you're just going to get rebuffed anyway?
Nobody sane will slap you in the face for saying "Hey, is that a Robert Heinlein book you're looking at? I really liked Stranger in a Strange Land."
I'm not saying go grab girls' butts.
And yeah, you'll get rejected more often than not. Sometimes you'll get a bit of polite discussion. Sometimes you'll get a flirty smile and then you'll freeze up and let her go. And sometimes you'll start something more! Even a short conversation that leads nowhere and doesn't even get you a number or email address will leave you feeling more confident.
On the other hand... when you don't reach out at all, you get nothing!
lots of women do the 'rebuff' thing because well. . .think of it. You are a woman, you have to be careful of chance encounters because anyone can be wanting a lot of things from you that you aren't interested in. Some of those people aren't really interested in taking NO for an answer, either. So every potential encounter can be either a pleasant chat with a potential new friend, or a start of a hellish stalker scenario.
It takes a lot of energy to weed out the sincere from the rats, so a lady can get into a habit of just frightening guys off with an almost automatic 'rebuff.'
So be casual and keep it light and to the point. Remember she has a lot on her mind. "I liked that author, too, especially his "Farnham's Freehold!"
Merle
16 Mar 2008, 7:33 pm
16 Mar 2008, 8:54 pm
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16 Mar 2008, 9:01 pm
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