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01 Apr 2013, 1:52 pm

Although I've not and cannot legally as of yet have one nor intend to ever, I wish to know of the opinions of others on one night stands. Also, what would you say defines a romantic relationship. Many seem to base it off physical contact for some reason.

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01 Apr 2013, 2:00 pm

Opinions are going to vary widely. Some people aren't into them, others have no problem with them. Everyone's different, it just is what it is.

And I'd consider a romantic relationship to be one that included sex of some sort or another, so yeah, physical contact. If it's not a sexual relationship, how is it romantic vs. just a friendship? To me, adding the adjective "romantic," to relationship is a socially acceptable way of politely saying that a couple has a sexual relationship w/o having to bluntly state that they're sleeping together. However, I am aware that describing someone's behaviour as romantic can mean that they're very sweet & lovey and caring and all that - but 99.99% of the time the reason that they bother with these social rituals is for the purpose of obtaining sex, soooo, even then it's about physical desires & a physical relationship vs. non.

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01 Apr 2013, 3:01 pm

A one night stand: to fulfill a desire or need for sex when you haven't gotten that in a while and it could be from anyone. I would like to try and avoid close friends, and try and go towards someone who is acquainted or is friends with someone you know well. Out of the five women I have been with, two of them were one night stands.

Romantic relationships are meant to have physical and sexual contact involved. I would prefer this to be exclusive myself.

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01 Apr 2013, 3:04 pm

it's hard, close to imposable to deal with a relationship for me now, so friends with benefits is nice. some are one night stands, some are more than once.
I used to be romantic, but now I can cringe if a women try's to touch me if I'm not ready, and that's hard cus women in general don't understand this?
they think every guy wants them to touch them.

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01 Apr 2013, 3:06 pm

If you have few friends and haven't been in a relationship in a while (or worse: You've never been in one), you'll feel very lonely afterwards. Having said that, one-night stands beats celibacy any day.

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01 Apr 2013, 3:08 pm

goldfish21 wrote:

The emotional intimacy that comes with a proper romantic relationship is good and worth looking for in it's own right. Some people are unwilling or unable to have sex without this component.I wonder why do you say 99.99% of the time they are just for sex, is that your experience? I know people, women among them, who have no shame saying they are in a purely sexual relationship with someone else, or one of good friends with no romance who still have sex every so often, it can get rather complicated :lol:

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01 Apr 2013, 3:49 pm

Shatbat wrote:

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Of course there are people in purely sexual relationships, and others with no romance & frequent sex, etc etc - I never said anything to the contrary.

There are 7 Billion+ people on this planet and an extremely broad variety of relationship types, beliefs, sexual preferences etc etc.

I said 99.99% of the time people act romantic towards another because they're sexually attracted to them and ultimately desire sex with them because it's true, IMO. What other reason would someone be romantic to another in their language, behaviours, actions & gestures and so forth?

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01 Apr 2013, 3:58 pm

I think if two people want to have fun, or decide to let things happen, it's no big deal.

It only becomes a problem when:

1.) Proper precautions aren't taken
2.) One person lies to the other person to trick them into thinking their intent is a relationship.

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01 Apr 2013, 4:12 pm

goldfish21 wrote:

Of course there are people in purely sexual relationships, and others with no romance & frequent sex, etc etc - I never said anything to the contrary.

Because such language, actions and gestures feel good in their own right, and help make an special connection with someone. Those people I mentioned earlier, some of them miss being in a romantic relationship even though they have someone who meets their sexual needs. Although I wonder whether a romantic relationship can exist without sex or at least some sexual tension and feelings, even if that was the case, there is more to it than that.

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01 Apr 2013, 4:13 pm

You can't have one? Your profile says you're 32... are you living in an Amish commune? I'm confused.

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01 Apr 2013, 4:22 pm

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You can't have one? Your profile says you're 32... are you living in an Amish commune? I'm confused.

he's 14

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postp5182029.html#5182029

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01 Apr 2013, 5:24 pm

hyperlexian wrote:

uwmonkdm wrote:

You can't have one? Your profile says you're 32... are you living in an Amish commune? I'm confused.

he's 14

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postp5182029.html#5182029

Why is a 14 year old even asking such a question?
I'm not going to read every post he's made to find his age, I just read this;

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01 Apr 2013, 5:27 pm

uwmonkdm wrote:

hyperlexian wrote:

uwmonkdm wrote:

You can't have one? Your profile says you're 32... are you living in an Amish commune? I'm confused.

he's 14

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postp5182029.html#5182029

Why is a 14 year old even asking such a question?
I'm not going to read every post he's made to find his age, I just read this;

you went to that much trouble to grab a screenshot to show me where you got his age, but you could not be bothered to go back and read through 8 other posts? :lol:

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01 Apr 2013, 5:32 pm

^^^ Does he say so in another thread somewhere else? It's certainly not in here.

Besides, you're a mod - can't you fix that for him? Surely misrepresenting age is "bad" somehow, right?

*nudge*

14... don't worry, kid, and don't rush - it's NOT that big of a deal, despite what some loudmouthed teens might say. You can always stave off the chest-beating morons with a no-details story about "some girl at summer camp".

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01 Apr 2013, 5:35 pm

BlueMax wrote:

^^^ Does he say so in another thread somewhere else? It's certainly not in here.

Besides, you're a mod - can't you fix that for him? Surely misrepresenting age is "bad" somehow, right?

*nudge*

if you look at my first post above, i link to the post where he admits to being 14.

i don't have the power to change that on anyone's profile (i have no admin privileges whatsoever). since he posted his actual age elsewhere, we know that he probably isn't 32. people unfortunately lie all the time on the internet about their age, or sometimes add different ages on WrongPlanet for a joke. many people don't even show their ages on their profile here. since he declared his age elsewhere (and also alluded to being underage here) we can see what he has done, at least.

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01 Apr 2013, 8:06 pm

This is the One Night Stand that I want to make for myself one of these days, mainly because it's a hilarious piece of functional art furniture.

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