Multi-Layered Issue - Help Plz?

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- Went out with this girl for about 3 months, she was absolutely awesome. Pity I was a complete fool at the time and managed to fail miserably at even sustaining the simple roots of a relationship.
- It's been two years since then and I've not been anywhere near a relationship. I panic and get nervous when there's a possibility.
- I once almost got laid (after disastrous r/ship) and was shaking like a leaf with panic (but still wanted some of course!). She bailed when it came to the crunch.. said her legs weren't shaved and she didn't feel happy with them or some other bullsh*t.
- My room is a stinking tip
- Women whom I find attractive scare me
- I have this strange thing where I don't feel I'm worthy of a woman until I'm at least rich and have a car. This isn't looking like happening soon.
- I'm a virgin.
- The less I get laid the more it's driving an internal needle into my psyche.


It's 1.30 and I have to be up in 6 hours for work so there's probably 10 million details I've missed, so anything you want to know, just ask!

Can't help with this but wanted you to know that I used to intentionally not shave my legs before I went to the bar to keep myself from making...bad choices<---one night stands. It is part of some female psychies to be afraid of men mocking them for having fuzzy legs. Hey, we use whatever technique we can to avoid doing the same thing that guys feel good about doing...sleeping with strangers just cause it feels good. We are the ones who get the "bad reputaion and a baby" if we act on our desires. Point being, she probably did want to act on it but...it's more complicated for females then just pure desire.


I don't know the actual statistics of the % of females who only like guys because they have money,car job that fits some profile but I was never one of them and I don't think I am the only one who just doesn't care about that stuff, (inspite of the media hype to the contrary). So don't use that as an excuse to avoid females, I never would have had a date before 30 if I had used that criteria to like a guy, and I knew some great guys...the females who do are not worth your time...honestly. Whatever you have will never be enough for them(what if someone with a better job/car comes along?) and they will make your life miserable.

Thanks for your response.

RE the getting laid thing, she'd lusted after me for about 2 years then she made her excuses when she finally had a chance - just one of those things?

Maybe this is more ranting than a question but the fact is I subconsciously keep my room in a s**t state to ward off females.

It sucks.

RE..the girl who lusted after you for two years. Maybe she was hoping that you would want to be in a relationship and thought she would blow her chances if she slept with you right off the bat...happens a lot to women. Or she might have had her period or a yeast infection but been to embarassed to mention those "issues" or she might have been "sort of" involved with someone at the time and was fighting between her lust and not wanting to betray the person she was seeing. Point being....this stuff can be really complicated.

I guess you will know you are ready to date again when you get the urge to clean