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I was at a party, and got a bit friendly with a girl I said I'd never go out with... I mean, we held hands, got a bit cuddly on the couch, she kissed me a little, etc... I kind of led her on, is what I'm trying to say. And the next day it was all awkward because I remembered why I said I'd never go out with her, and now she's really upset about it because she thinks she embarrassed me and acted like a 'desperate little girl' (her words). I don't feel that way at all, and I let her know that... She's always been a great friend, but now she doesn't want to hang around me and our friends any more. I told her how absurd the situation is, and that we *can* just be friends... but she gets more upset I don't really know how to handle this, what do you guys think?

One question, was there a lot of alcohol involved?

I'm going through the same thing with a girl myself, she has someone and I'm left out in the cold. It isn't easy heck it hurts every time I see her or she mentions her BF or anything, I'm just trying to get over my feelings for her but we never did what you did so it'll probably be easier for me. It seems to me that she got really close to what she wanted only to get slapped back right to square one after having worked so hard to get there, basically you broke her heart and she's upset and embarrassed.

As for anything you can do to get her back, just be nice to her and don't let anyone pick on her b/c of this or anything. She might not get over it or may just move on totally but the only way she'll come back is if she feels comfortable doing so.

She opened a door and you slammed it, give her time. I'm sure you're sorry this happened, but she's probably embarrassed and a little hurt.

Rejection is a tough dish to digest no matter how carefully it's served.

Why would you "never go out with her"?

If you're interested enough in a girl to cannoodle, what could possibly be wrong?

Perhaps you need to sort yourself and your criteria out first and make a decision. As it stands now, you're probably quite a painful reminder to her and she may be right that you shouldn't be together if you don't want to be together.

Well, update... she's still bitter about the whole thing, there's not much more I can say... but we're still talking and we're still friends. She found someone else, though, but she told me she wishes it was me... that makes me feel awful that she likes me but I don't like her back, it's hard not to think about it... guess I deserve to feel bad about it though