You look like a nice guy, a little goofy, but you're not ugly. It's the aspie expression that kills it. My daughter does the same thing in pix. She is quite pretty, but looks so dorky in photos. She affects weird expressions, fake smiles, and is so self-conscious. Have someone take your pic when you're not looking, and see if you look more natural. Practice in a mirror different angles and expressions. Copy the expression of people that look good in photos.