How NOT to flirt

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I wonder, what's the best, nicest way to ignore a girl that starts flirting.
Just not responding and let her go on? I always feel a bit stupid and mean in that situation. Is there any kind of body language to show her I'm not interested without being rude?

are you married? do you have a ring you could wear, point to, smile and shake your head slightly? I saw that in a film, it seemed to work.

Women aren't nice when doing the ol' brushoff, why should you be? The recommended body language is pointing inside your mouth, which means "you make me vomit".

No, not married. Maybe I could wear a ring anyway. But what if I meet the right girl then?
Will give the smile/shake head combination a try next time.



Not exactly my style... but will try that on the difficult cases.

why you are so bothered?

If you're truly not interested, then you'll naturally show no signs of interest. She'll pick up on that & leave you alone soon enough.

Btw, it kinda sounds to me that your post was a subtle way to brag about how much action is coming your way.

I am a female that had fellas flirt with me over the phone (I work at a call center) getting people like that to back off can be a whole different story.

Yes, but that'll leave her fumbling with her hair in vain... And she may feel quite stupid about it. Plus she may think me an idiot for totaly ignoring her, while every nice NT would have shown her that she can stop that. Especially if other people are around, like in restaurant or a bar. Personaly I would feel like a fool the other way around.



Good point. No comment.

Just say..."Sorry, not interested".

Doesn't that work?

I think it's clear enought that they should get the message.

I've never had this problem. Are you sure it isn't all in your head? Usually a guy is doing all the work to meet women.

There are females(and males), who make it a game of getting attention. The more challenging the person is, not showing interest, the harder they try...seems to be a psychological thing that they need to prove their worth by getting the "thing" that is the hardest to get(why some people play the hard to get role). You could start showing them lots of attention and being very forward...but that could back fire. Most people are "put off" when someone constantly looks at their watch, looks away alot when the person is talking, yawns. All I have to do usually is open my mouth...works like a charm

Does saying, "I'm already taken" work?

"Sorry, not interested" or other verbal response:

Sure, that works if you're already talking.
I was thinking about situations like stopping your bike at a traffic light or in a bar the girl two or three tables away. A girl, I don't know and have never talked with.

no. it's not. Actually I live in Amsterdam, go to work around 5 km on a bike through a city full of tourists, staying there for a few days to have fun and. Not the perfect Aspi place. same for every restaurant, bar or even supermarket here.
Plus: You're wrong about the guy always doing the work. It's very often if not in most cases the woman starting to send the signals. (Or are there major cultural differences between Europe and the rest of the world? Not 100% sure about that)
When having a coffee somewhere I always have a book with me, so even if I don't want to read, I can still fake it and ignore everything around me.



Good point, I'll get me a watch right away.