Why don't girls with Asperger's Syndrome reply on myspace to

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I have Asperger's syndrome and i noticed that most girls dont reply like the ones who dont have it but now that i find these asperger girls on myspace ill write them and most will not reply. There are a couple that will and that i talk to but it seems like when i let them know that it bothers me that other aspie girls dont reply they say they dont know. we'll talk about something different for like 5 messages then they will stop replying as well and never reply for 3-6 weeks or until i write them again. once one had took 3 weeks to reply to me and gave a huge lie sating that she thought she replied to my message when she was on and changed her picture. I dont know whats going on but it bothers me. My mom says its becuz i have aspergers dats why i worry about his stuff but it doesnt seem like these girls care so much. Im a boy and i want to know whats up can anyone tell me.

could be anything; they could just be 'shy', they don't want to come on too strong, they want you to make another step, they found someone else, they didn't find someone else, they're afraid they'll look 'easy'...who knows?

Why would you expect aspie girls to be more likely to reply in a reasonable amount of time than NT girls?

I know what you are saying though. Non-replies and similar forms of flaking are a huge pet peave of mine as well.

The best advice I can give you is, take it as a hint to back off, even if it wasn't meant to be one. Always assume she is taking the cowardly** way out of a connection... she has decided to end it by not telling you and leaving you hanging. Most women fail to see anything wrong with this, as though it is somehow easier on your feelings wondering what the hell happened than just coming out and telling you hey, I don't want to talk to you any more. I can't say if it is a mostly NT thing or aspies do it too; however, I could almost guarantee some aspies will: because it is a spectrum you can never absolutely say an aspie would never do this or that.

Anyhow, what I am trying to say is that it is always better to err on the side of caution. If they really care anything about you, they will eventually wonder what is going on when they haven't heard from you in quite a while, then check back through their correspondence history and realize that duh!, it is their turn to write you.

**[sarcasm]Of course, this has never happened to me in the past. I don't have any bitterness about this whatsoever.[/sarcasm]

Texting and emailing is a chore. I know of an aspie girl, but she never reply because she don't waste online she has better things to do.

What really gets my goat is girls who accept your friend request and then never respond to your messages.
Like hello, if you didn't want me to ever message you you shouldn't have friended me.

On MySpace, I get a lot of emails that go something like this:

I delete anything from someone I don't know unless they say something that indicates they really want to talk to me in particular, not just any female in my geographical area. An example of something I would respond to would be:

Where's your tatoo?

She doesn't know you. For all she knows you could be some derranged lunatic with no redeeming qualities.

That is a more likely cause of no replies basically. Rarely I do it but I proffered to know people first.

OK so here is an off the wall theory.

There are a couple of old sayings:
One is that people will often marry someone like thier mother.
Another is you better like the mother of the woman you marry, because that is who she will likely be as she gets older.

My theory is you can be attracted to someone like your sibling as well.

Therefore, instead of looking for an aspie girl who you think will understand you probably is not the way to go.

You should instead look for a girl who has an aspie brother or sister who she grew up with and knows aspie behavior and can respond from experience and is comfortable with.

That actually makes sense.

im TERRIBLE about all this kind of stuff: keeping up phone correspondence, checking phone messages, checking PMs, responding to PMs, same for emails. i get a lot of anxiety about even reading emails or pms from people i want to make good responses to but... but have no time to doso... ill just skip the message until i do cause i just can't look at them... i get worried they'll think i'm ignoring them.

it's no wonder a lot of the friends that i have made... don't bother with me anymore.

So true. So very, very true.

bah, why you care that much?

Very true.

I'm female and Aspie, and this is one of the reasons why it takes me so long to reply to emails or texts, if I don't just ignore them. It's tedious, can be difficult (keying in words on a phone is alot harder than typing on a keyboard. Texting is slow and limited) and distracts me from other things I'd rather be doing. I just don't want to spend my day hearing about people's favourite bands/show/phone/eye colour/ice cream flavour. People rarely interest me when they talk. I'd much rather talk about black holes or tornadoes, or better yet, learn about them.

I do like speaking to people in one form though; MSN messenger. It's real time, you can talk to many people at once (which is much easier than reading and replying to every email), and you don't have to remember everything you want to say in one go (it's much more convenient to say "oh, btw" on msn, than it is to send a new email just for a small part you left out). Plus, the emoticons make it easy to spot when someone's joking, bored, serious, happy, sad etc. I believe everyone should carry around a collection of round, yellow faces attatched to sticks. That way, they can hold them up when they're feeling a certain way, then people won't think I'm an ass for not noticing when they're sad

That reminds me why I never finish sending thank you cards.