kissing

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um... i know it sounds really bizzare but one thing im worried about for when i finally get round to dating someone is... i dont know how to kiss properly... ie pull... snog... call it what you like i dont know how to do it XD. any tips/hints/opinions on the matter?

I never thought about a thread like this. I've never had a girl friend thus I've never kissed anyone either. I want to know how as well. I'll be watching this topic.

It's not much to worry about, I think. People expect the first one to be awkward. Just don't stick your tongue in her mouth right from the start.

edit: err...I meant "don't", not "down"

Last edited by RainKing on 22 Apr 2008, 3:49 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Not everybody's up for immediate tongue, though. Lip-to-lip action will suffice at first and when you and your partner get more comfortable, you can slowly work your tongue in. It's better to think of the whole process as a mouth massage. The only way to get good is through practice, so don't worry about being awkward at first.

any way i can practise for future referance? i mean... millions of people have said "just stick your tounge down her throat" but... i think it needs to be more specific, do you really expect me to shove my tounge into a girls mouth and just leave it there? im so confuzzled in the subject XD

You also don't have to start with a full make-out session either... if your partner is already experienced then said partner probably wouldn't mind teaching you some things. If not, then start out with more simple stuff. Maybe some pecks for a while until you're both experienced with each other...

Hahaha...I can relate. It's just something natural though, so don't worry about it. My first kiss was rather well pulled off, the trick is to just not think about what you're doing. And hopefully, you won't be, if it's a good kiss that is.

The girl I was with after my first kiss had somewhat of a phobia towards kissing, explaining she "just didn't know how." And so we both thought and tried too hard about it, and never ended up really kissing. But it didn't matter, we were content just sort of sucking each other's lips.

It's not the action that matters, just the feelings behind them.

I have a few tips I suppose.

Move your head to her head slowly.
Don't open your mouth wider than her mouth is, that's getting slobber all over her, you want to restrict your slobber to her lips.
If she's not a virgin kisser, let her teach you.

French kissing, otherwise known as sticking your tongue down her throat, is more of a dance with the tongue. You don't just stick it in there and have it lay in her mouth. Think of it like your tongues are playing together(why they also call it playing tonsil hockey, LOL)...um... if her tongue doesn't greet and play with your tongue, pull it out.

In my experience, just relax. I found that once I kissed, my movements just came to me naturally.

*giggles*

I just relied on instinct, and after a while I got better.

It's very much on instinct. I wasn't taught to kiss at camp by my friend like every hot girl in a sitcom. It just... happens.

That's good stuff right there!

Think about the positioning of the lips... horizontally.
To get what I think of as the best fit for a passionate kiss, someone will need to turn their head slightly at an angle so the pairs of lips are more perpendicular to each other.

Biting and sucking the other person's lip(s), like you see sometimes in the movies, is okay but maybe not for the first kiss.

This whole French kissing thing might need better explanation I feel.

It is NOT sticking your tongue DOWN anyone's throat... unless you're Ace Freely I suppose
It is also NOT having your tongue reaching anyone's tonsils... their gag reflex would kick in by then if it's working okay.

Like was mentioned above... it's just the two tongues playing around with each other.
Personally, my wife seemed to like this, but I found it too uncomfortable for me to enjoy.
I really have no idea what the hell I'm supposed to be doing to/with her tongue... I prefer the lip interaction myself.

Don't try too hard, don't kiss or press too hard... go lightly at first, contain the slobber/drool, and take in the sensations.

Do you have a dog at home?








Just kidding


You know when you press your thumb against the side of your hand a bit of skin pooches out above it?
You can try kissing on that... seriously... just to learn lip control.

Something I have always kinda wondered about kissing, is how much you can taste when kissing with the tongue.

I mean obviously it will depend on how well developed your sense of taste is, but can you usually taste what the person has been eating, or if they just brushed their teeth?

i hope my gal likes coke ;p.

Sort of. It depends on what they ate and how soon they ate it, same with the teeth brushing. It can be a smooth way to get some extra kisses in, just say you're trying to guess.