18 Aug 2008, 11:38 pm
All I'm saying is if your going to post about how perfect your Knight in Shining Armor is, I also wanna here all the nitty gritty unperfect things you discover as you get to know him better.
I've seen other people post when they found someone they liked.
It consisted of either nothing at all, an off-hand mention of "my boyfriend" later, or sometimes a "This is no longer an issue as I found someone interesting to me" type of response.
Seriously, modesty has it's place. If the whole post was designed to show your boyfriend that you liked him, you could of done the same thing with a PM. I know I personally tend to read those first anyhow. As for a public declaration, that's fine, but you gotta treat it like PDA. I don't like walking down the street and seeing two people sucking the life out of each other either. It's actually kind of similar if you think about it.
First, you made an entire thread to basically say "I found a boy" but it took you way too many words to get to that point.
Secondly, you then tried to hide the true intention behind the post (See: "I found a boy" & "PDA") by essentially saying, "If I can do it so can you, don't give up hope" as if it was some form of encouragement. Statistically speaking, if 50% find mates, and you find one, that means someone else doesn't 
It would be more hopeful for someone else for you to NOT find someone. 
(Talk about sadistic humor, that was dark)
Lastly, it isn't that I'm not confident with myself or my ability to find a decent girl (as you implied). It is simply your approach to the situation at hand. Could of been handled much more tactfully and much less sneakily in my opinion.
18 Aug 2008, 11:49 pm
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19 Aug 2008, 12:28 am
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19 Aug 2008, 12:31 am
Rynok wrote:
Seriously, modesty has it's place.
Secondly, you then tried to hide the true intention behind the post (See: "I found a boy" & "PDA") by essentially saying, "If I can do it so can you, don't give up hope" as if it was some form of encouragement. Statistically speaking, if 50% find mates, and you find one, that means someone else doesn't It would be more hopeful for someone else for you to NOT find someone. (Talk about sadistic humor, that was dark)
Secondly, you then tried to hide the true intention behind the post (See: "I found a boy" & "PDA") by essentially saying, "If I can do it so can you, don't give up hope" as if it was some form of encouragement. Statistically speaking, if 50% find mates, and you find one, that means someone else doesn't
It would be more hopeful for someone else for you to NOT find someone. (Talk about sadistic humor, that was dark)seriously. what is WRONG with you people???
19 Aug 2008, 1:05 am
Ladygirl wrote:
(It makes me sad that I even feel the need to defend something on here that was not ill intentioned but...)
This was my public declaration of love. It was done on here because this is the most shared (public) medium Chris and I have at this juncture. It is the most appropriate site. I think it's the most appropriate board too. I know I read it the most.
I'm sorry to all who are so insecure with their love lives that they watch boards waiting for happy people to post so they can think of some caustic response and reward themselves with false security.
You can see it in nature all the time. Dogs. All aggression is rooted in fear. The most confident dogs aren't aggressive because they have no fear that they will be challenged whereas the least confident dogs are the most aggressive because they think everything of theirs is going to be taken.
Don't worry boys, I have no intention of stealing your future girlfriends. You needn't protect them from me with aggression.
I fail to understand, even when I am most miserable, why someone would want to cause harm (in any form) to another.
Maybe cleave the board in half? One for the happy endings and one for the not so happy endings? Then Cyberman, Rynok, LePetitPrince, Kilroy and the others won't ever have to see me, or my joy, again.
This was my public declaration of love. It was done on here because this is the most shared (public) medium Chris and I have at this juncture. It is the most appropriate site. I think it's the most appropriate board too. I know I read it the most.
I'm sorry to all who are so insecure with their love lives that they watch boards waiting for happy people to post so they can think of some caustic response and reward themselves with false security.
You can see it in nature all the time. Dogs. All aggression is rooted in fear. The most confident dogs aren't aggressive because they have no fear that they will be challenged whereas the least confident dogs are the most aggressive because they think everything of theirs is going to be taken.
Don't worry boys, I have no intention of stealing your future girlfriends. You needn't protect them from me with aggression.
I fail to understand, even when I am most miserable, why someone would want to cause harm (in any form) to another.
Maybe cleave the board in half? One for the happy endings and one for the not so happy endings? Then Cyberman, Rynok, LePetitPrince, Kilroy and the others won't ever have to see me, or my joy, again.
Sorry about some of those guys darlin......they haven't yet attained the happiness that those of us who have/are/is in love. I can say that I am happy for you, the fact that you've found the man of your "dreams" and so forth and whatnot.
Not all these guys are all that.......well hum glum, some have had relationships before that haven't worked out so well.
Then there's me.
the dating and advice councilor. the guy who's not NT, but not AS either. but more NT then AS.
I've dated, had three girlfriends, and one potential that ended me not dating, because an old flame came on the scene, and I sorta just ignored her and ended up getting in trouble for it as well, when I next saw her.
19 Aug 2008, 1:34 am
Praetorius wrote:
You couldn't just let this thread die. You had to resurrect it just to make sure that as many people could see it as possible, allowing you to flaunt your happiness to the widest audience! And when you break up with this perfect boyfriend of yours, don't be coming back here to join the rest of us in our place of relationship-bred anguish!
I actually assumed it was dead. Then I came back nine days later and here we were.
Though Im thankful for all of the bickering for the point you mentioned. I'm so happy to have him and I do want to tell the widest audience! So rock on WP publicity machine.Rynok wrote:
I've seen other people post when they found someone they liked.
It consisted of either nothing at all, an off-hand mention of "my boyfriend" later, or sometimes a "This is no longer an issue as I found someone interesting to me" type of response.
It consisted of either nothing at all, an off-hand mention of "my boyfriend" later, or sometimes a "This is no longer an issue as I found someone interesting to me" type of response.
+1 Rynok point to me? for not mentioning a word about it on here for eight months and merely changing my 'status' on the other sites when we started?
Rynok wrote:
I don't like walking down the street and seeing two people sucking the life out of each other either. It's actually kind of similar if you think about it.
If we're sitting in the park...sucking the life out of each other you don't have much warning to look away. It seems Love and Dating might be a place where you'd run into such sucking the life out of one another stories.
Ryok wrote:
Statistically speaking, if 50% find mates, and you find one, that means someone else doesn't It would be more hopeful for someone else for you to NOT find someone. (Talk about sadistic humor, that was dark)
Fair enough. She had 23 years to find him before I did and then the statistic would have been on me.
Ryok wrote:
Lastly, it isn't that I'm not confident with myself or my ability to find a decent girl (as you implied). It is simply your approach to the situation at hand. Could of been handled much more tactfully and much less sneakily in my opinion.
Okay, if you aren't looking to assert yourself, why even respond, except to be unkind? I can't imagine how my OP would put you in a position to feel defensive but perhaps. I guess I just don't understand why you need to correct me...even if you consider me to be tactless or sneaky, why not really bother the people who are outwardly mean? The religion/politics board is borderline abusive. They could use some sensitivity training, as is you specialty I assume, Rynok?
19 Aug 2008, 2:57 am
sarcasm is in my blood ,
I can't see such thread full of love,flowers,butterflies and romance and just stand watching without saying anything silly 
anyways, congrats ladybird, congrats sauvage boy ...hope you pop-up some sauvage babies
sauvage*= wild in french
PS: try 69 position, very amusing.
MissConstrue, I am still waiting for the links.
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19 Aug 2008, 4:35 am
19 Aug 2008, 4:42 am
Rynok wrote:
All I'm saying is if your going to post about how perfect your Knight in Shining Armor is, I also wanna here all the nitty gritty unperfect things you discover as you get to know him better.
I've seen other people post when they found someone they liked.
It consisted of either nothing at all, an off-hand mention of "my boyfriend" later, or sometimes a "This is no longer an issue as I found someone interesting to me" type of response.
Seriously, modesty has it's place. If the whole post was designed to show your boyfriend that you liked him, you could of done the same thing with a PM. I know I personally tend to read those first anyhow. As for a public declaration, that's fine, but you gotta treat it like PDA. I don't like walking down the street and seeing two people sucking the life out of each other either. It's actually kind of similar if you think about it.
First, you made an entire thread to basically say "I found a boy" but it took you way too many words to get to that point.
Secondly, you then tried to hide the true intention behind the post (See: "I found a boy" & "PDA") by essentially saying, "If I can do it so can you, don't give up hope" as if it was some form of encouragement. Statistically speaking, if 50% find mates, and you find one, that means someone else doesn't It would be more hopeful for someone else for you to NOT find someone. (Talk about sadistic humor, that was dark)
Lastly, it isn't that I'm not confident with myself or my ability to find a decent girl (as you implied). It is simply your approach to the situation at hand. Could of been handled much more tactfully and much less sneakily in my opinion.
I've seen other people post when they found someone they liked.
It consisted of either nothing at all, an off-hand mention of "my boyfriend" later, or sometimes a "This is no longer an issue as I found someone interesting to me" type of response.
Seriously, modesty has it's place. If the whole post was designed to show your boyfriend that you liked him, you could of done the same thing with a PM. I know I personally tend to read those first anyhow. As for a public declaration, that's fine, but you gotta treat it like PDA. I don't like walking down the street and seeing two people sucking the life out of each other either. It's actually kind of similar if you think about it.
First, you made an entire thread to basically say "I found a boy" but it took you way too many words to get to that point.
Secondly, you then tried to hide the true intention behind the post (See: "I found a boy" & "PDA") by essentially saying, "If I can do it so can you, don't give up hope" as if it was some form of encouragement. Statistically speaking, if 50% find mates, and you find one, that means someone else doesn't
It would be more hopeful for someone else for you to NOT find someone. (Talk about sadistic humor, that was dark)Lastly, it isn't that I'm not confident with myself or my ability to find a decent girl (as you implied). It is simply your approach to the situation at hand. Could of been handled much more tactfully and much less sneakily in my opinion.
Ladygirl knows about all the nitty gritty stuff. She still loves me. This wasn't a thread to rub it in your faces, she was just declaring how happy she was. Its a shame some of you are so bitter and paranoid.
19 Aug 2008, 7:10 am
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19 Aug 2008, 7:57 am
19 Aug 2008, 12:23 pm
benjimanbreeg wrote:
Rynok wrote:
All I'm saying is if your going to post about how perfect your Knight in Shining Armor is, I also wanna here all the nitty gritty unperfect things you discover as you get to know him better.
I've seen other people post when they found someone they liked.
It consisted of either nothing at all, an off-hand mention of "my boyfriend" later, or sometimes a "This is no longer an issue as I found someone interesting to me" type of response.
Seriously, modesty has it's place. If the whole post was designed to show your boyfriend that you liked him, you could of done the same thing with a PM. I know I personally tend to read those first anyhow. As for a public declaration, that's fine, but you gotta treat it like PDA. I don't like walking down the street and seeing two people sucking the life out of each other either. It's actually kind of similar if you think about it.
First, you made an entire thread to basically say "I found a boy" but it took you way too many words to get to that point.
Secondly, you then tried to hide the true intention behind the post (See: "I found a boy" & "PDA") by essentially saying, "If I can do it so can you, don't give up hope" as if it was some form of encouragement. Statistically speaking, if 50% find mates, and you find one, that means someone else doesn't It would be more hopeful for someone else for you to NOT find someone. (Talk about sadistic humor, that was dark)
Lastly, it isn't that I'm not confident with myself or my ability to find a decent girl (as you implied). It is simply your approach to the situation at hand. Could of been handled much more tactfully and much less sneakily in my opinion.
I've seen other people post when they found someone they liked.
It consisted of either nothing at all, an off-hand mention of "my boyfriend" later, or sometimes a "This is no longer an issue as I found someone interesting to me" type of response.
Seriously, modesty has it's place. If the whole post was designed to show your boyfriend that you liked him, you could of done the same thing with a PM. I know I personally tend to read those first anyhow. As for a public declaration, that's fine, but you gotta treat it like PDA. I don't like walking down the street and seeing two people sucking the life out of each other either. It's actually kind of similar if you think about it.
First, you made an entire thread to basically say "I found a boy" but it took you way too many words to get to that point.
Secondly, you then tried to hide the true intention behind the post (See: "I found a boy" & "PDA") by essentially saying, "If I can do it so can you, don't give up hope" as if it was some form of encouragement. Statistically speaking, if 50% find mates, and you find one, that means someone else doesn't
It would be more hopeful for someone else for you to NOT find someone. (Talk about sadistic humor, that was dark)Lastly, it isn't that I'm not confident with myself or my ability to find a decent girl (as you implied). It is simply your approach to the situation at hand. Could of been handled much more tactfully and much less sneakily in my opinion.
Ladygirl knows about all the nitty gritty stuff. She still loves me. This wasn't a thread to rub it in your faces, she was just declaring how happy she was. Its a shame some of you are so bitter and paranoid.
Woah, Benjiman, not everyone here is like that. Thus far, I think I'm one of the few people here happy for her, I'm sure there are others, but I haven't seen them.
and Prince, I don't have a card, not yet, but I will be speaking to one of my Operatives once school starts again, about getting some made(both for my dating and advice stuff, and my computer operations and repair specialties) but in the meantime, you can listen on online to me at kfox.georgefox.edu wednesdays starting mid September.
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