Uncanny Similarities

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My boyfriend and I have A LOT in common. We have the same weird taste in music, down to exact bands that few people obsess over or even know about. Our lives have been different but strangely parallel. We have very similar personalities, similar interests, agree on almost everything, and have the same odd sense of humor. We share a number of odd quirks. And I'm summarizing for th sake of brevity.

Fortunately, we are different in some ways, but it's all minor inconsequential/superficial stuff or personality traits that balance well together.

What's really weird to me is that the other day, we discovered that we both have the same rare deformity in our left shoulders. Only the left side. Now that's weird. But we can't be related because we're from different parts of the world.

It's easy to explain away the fact that we've spent our lives doing art bearing a strong resemblance to one another - everyone has a "type". But the shoulder thing? On top of everything else? What the F**K is going on here???

What are the odds of meeting someone who is like yourself in almost every way and yet is also incredibly attractive physically and is different from you in ways in which you need them to be different? We're both very lucky; that's for sure.

It's cool that this kind of thing is possible. But the shoulder thing is just weird . . .

don't ask the universe too many questions,
just take it while you've got the chance.

I know, it's really exciting! I feel really lucky to be getting to experience something that, perhaps, most people never get the chance to. It's something to celebrate for sure!

And yet as a logically minded person, I can't help but be a bit baffled. It's as though the universe is trying to make me believe in things like fate, destiny, soul-mates, etc. That's not necessarily a bad thing, it's just . . . so different from the way I'm used to thinking and perceiving reality. I don't know if I should laugh or change my way of thinking or just try to stop thinking so much and instead appreciate everything for what it is - a great source of happiness.

Enjoy what you have, but don't think that "soul mates" exist just because you got lucky.

Sounds like you may have found your twin-flame (other half of your soul), or at least a very compatable soulmate...that's if you believe in this kinda stuff. I think that people have many soulmates in life (could be mother, brother, girlfriend, etc..), but only one twin-flame, which some people might consider your true love. I would like to hear how you guys met!

I came very close last year, but we're still very good friends.

Same here. I found someone last year about this time, but I think the timing was off for both of us, as we both had (have) a lot on our plates. I haven't spoken to her since though.

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She and I are still friends, but anything beyond that is very uncertain at this time.

I don't exactly believe in soul-mates in the traditional sense, but the term is convenient for descriptive purposes. It sounds like we might meet the definition of "twin-flames". I like the term "true love" because it sounds more traditional, but I'm not really one to use those types of terms . . .

It's weird - we're both so rational and cynical, we never thought anything like this could happen, although I think we both secretly dreamed of it. I think we both continue to be bewildered by it all, but we've gotten better at accepting that it is real.

I had just moved to a new city and was living a solitary life, having some trouble meeting people. Then a friend of a friend called and invited me to meet him and a group of his friends and co-workers at a bar. It turned out to be a delightful dive bar (unusual for a fancy city like this one) hidden away down a back alley. Just the kind of place I like.

The group of people I was invited to hang out with were talking about things unrelated to my special interests and I was obviously having trouble participating in the conversation. So the guy who invited me pointed out a guy sitting alone at a table and said, "You've got to meet ___. He's really interesting." When he came to join us, he introduced us by saying to me, "This guy can tell you everything you'd ever want to know about [obsession of mine] and [obsession of mine]."

So we immediately started talking about our common interests, quickly realizing that we shared these interests down to a detailed level. When we talked about our lives, there were many similarities and parallels. When we talked about our outlooks on life, we agreed on almost everything. I remember just staring into each other's eyes all night as the conversation grew more intense. And I normally have some trouble maintaining eye contact.

Everyone else left, and we barely noticed because we were so captivated by each other. I remember, later on, embracing and saying in unison, "We found each other!!" and "I'm so happy just to know that you exist!" and "How can all of this be real?" I think it was the type of experience that people call "love at first site", although neither of us believed in such a concept until we experienced it.

Every time we're together, we discover more that we have in common . . . and the utterly bizarre coincidences seem to be increasing in frequency. So there's something really unusual going on. A rare and beautiful thing. I'm just letting it happen, doing what I can to nurture it and fully appreciate it. It's intense - that's for sure!

I think soul mates exist. Why do I see all this general cynicism on the forums?

Since when has disbelieving in platonic forms of perfection meant cynicism? The idea that there is this one out of billions who will fit perfectly is not only profoundly depressing on a simple mathematical level, not to mention that the idea would seem to lead to an endless search (or wait) were any potential soul-mates inevitably reveal their flaws which, however minor, would prove that they weren't "meant to be together".

ALSO, congratulations r.t.b.

I don't think of true love as a mathematical formula. You can't reduce life to a series of mathematical formulas.

do you share the same date of birth?

Well how about game theory?
But anyway, why is it a nice though that out of the 6 1/2 billion people on the planet, there is only one who you can truly love? If that were true I would know far fewer happy couples, and that's given that I don't know many. And If you factor in some guiding force which insures that the two are alive in the same place at the same time while also leaving some element of chance (or else happiness would be ubiquitous) then you're left with a god who plays dice.

Why do so many people believe they exist, yet they can't provide sufficient evidence to support this belief? That's called a "superstition."

Heh, I'd probably be a bit disturbed by the shoulder thing. ^_^

I've never really believed in the whole soulmate thing (for one thing, what happens when there's not an even number of people in the world?), but obviously that doesn't mean you can't find a good match.