How do I know where I stand in a relationship?

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I have been dating a guy for the past five months who I strongly suspect is either an Aspie or has High Functioning Autism. We get along great and I always have a wonderful time whenever we go out together. We are both religious so sex is not in the picture right now. I sent him an e-mail suggesting an idea; I asked him what he thought about meeting his father for coffee or a soda since his father will be leaving the city we both live in at the end of the summer in order to move to his retirement home. He replied that maybe we could get together with his father sometime in September.

He has continued to ask me out since I asked about meeting his father so I know I have not scared him off. I am somewhere on the autism spectrum myself albeit somewhat at the lighter end of the scale. He does not give out any signals nonverbally whatsoever. I'm not the greatest at reading facial expressions but I can tell if there is a change in expression. He often has a blank expression on his face. I don't want to be a nag or anything but I'm frustrated by his failure to communicate about certain issues. He could communicate verbally about these issues. I like him a lot and am really falling for him. I just hope I am not in yet another one-sided relationship. I want to ask him some questions but it feels like a no-win situation. Either I will scare him off or he will think I'm nagging. How should I approach this with him?

If you've expressed to him that your religious beliefs preclude you from having sex with him, he may not be interested anymore!

She mentioned that they are both religious.