19 Jul 2008, 5:39 pm
crackedpleasures
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19 Jul 2008, 5:49 pm
I just wanted to say there are guys out there that aren't purely "all about the sex".
If your married, they will probably expect to have sex, but if your married you will probably be comfortable around them and it might not be an issue.
If the guys are going to make you feel bad for not "putting out" then they aren't your type anyways. It is those same types of guys that still dump you after you "put out" anyways, so it isn't as if your missing out on anything (except the sex, but you don't care about that which works out). Also, guys consider it to be the girls fault they aren't "getting any" because if they are like that, it is always the girl saying "No" (since they are willing, they are either having sex or getting a "No").
Nothing wrong with being asexual though. Just means there are things that are more important to you than 10 seconds of excitement every now and again.
Agree with everything, but I do have questions about the 10 seconds.
That is an extreme case of premature ejaculation
10 seconds?!
19 Jul 2008, 9:15 pm
I´ve been very assexual until twenty... twenty something... now I think I don't care anymore about it... I think I´m pansexual now... It´s a very hard to understand part of me. When I was young (10-17 yo) I only could imagine platonic love, not sexual. Sex was not a strong drive in me as on my peers. They were all looking for sex partners and I was thinking about math, computers... When I became adult I just made a decision about the sex thing and assumed my part in society play. Didn't work, I was not happy with my girlfriends being a Man. The people thought that I was gay. No. Soon I realized that I was a lesbian 
This mean that I can't feel like an alpha male for a girl, I prefer my assume my weakness, my low self-esteem, my insecure feelings. I am not the kind of strong man that protects his woman... Now, I´m almost 30 yo, sex is not a import part of my life, but I feel the drive inside me, when I look other girls, or sexual situations. I do nothing about it, I just observe myself.
I don't know if this add something here...
19 Jul 2008, 11:51 pm
I just wanted to say there are guys out there that aren't purely "all about the sex".
If your married, they will probably expect to have sex, but if your married you will probably be comfortable around them and it might not be an issue.
If the guys are going to make you feel bad for not "putting out" then they aren't your type anyways. It is those same types of guys that still dump you after you "put out" anyways, so it isn't as if your missing out on anything (except the sex, but you don't care about that which works out). Also, guys consider it to be the girls fault they aren't "getting any" because if they are like that, it is always the girl saying "No" (since they are willing, they are either having sex or getting a "No").
Nothing wrong with being asexual though. Just means there are things that are more important to you than 10 seconds of excitement every now and again.
Agree with everything, but I do have questions about the 10 seconds.
That is an extreme case of premature ejaculation
10 seconds?!It was a slight exaggeration of coarse. I do that, to prove my point. (I'd feel sorry for anyone that only got 10s...although actually a lot of people have sex with the orgasm as their goal which is only about 10s or so for guys...differs for women I hear) Anyways, point was really that it is a fairly quick passing moment. Similar to eating a candy bar. It's good, but then it's gone and your out $1.00
11 Aug 2008, 4:20 pm
12 Aug 2008, 10:47 am
You're very young, you haven't had mind blowing sex yet.
When you do, you'll totally get the whole hoopla about it and why it's the most talked about yet most misunderstood act in the world.
In my experience, many women do not get into it until way into their thirties, when they become more comfortable with their bodies, with letting go, and with their sexuality in general.
The true female orgasm, how amazing and beautiful and electrifying is that. And it lasts, like, forever! I'm jealous!
Let me tell you, when a man you love gets you into a fevered pitch of ecstasy and manages to keep you screaming on the edge for 20 minutes or so and leaves you shaking and trembling with the body memory of him inside you, uhm, then I think you'll understand why it's such a big deal.
12 Aug 2008, 11:08 am
Yeah, I'm pretty indifferent to having sex too. I've just never really understood the appeal of it.
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