Mozart and the Whale -- a movie

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I don't know if you guys have seen this film, but I just watched it recently and I was very intrigued by the relationship between the two main characters because they are both people with AS who find one another attractive and end up dating. Granted that they have their share of problems, in the end, they are happy and together.

My question is this: Do you really think it is possible for someone with AS to have an intimate relationship with another person if he or she doesn't also have AS?

It can work out either way.

Of course it's possible. Whether or not it'll last long depends on the individual case. It requires maturity from both parties, for the aspie really has to do their best to work on their social skills and rise up against their natural deficiency, while the NT needs to be compassionate and understanding to their partner. Above all there must be real love there: both people must love their partner enough to be able to look past the difficult things. Is it possible? Absolutely. Will it happen for every aspie? Certainly not.

I don't have it but my boyfriend does its totally possible to have a relationship with an as if you find the right one

I am still leaning towards the AS-AS relationship track.

It's totally possible my boyfriend is an aspie and i'm an NT and we've have been dating for almost two and a half years. My brother who is also an aspie has had plenty of relationships with NT's and while some of them haven't worked out so well he's been with his girlfriend now for almost 2 years. So, yes it's totally possible.

I also agree with Veresae all the way!

Just so you understand, the Mozart and the Whale movie was a highly inaccurate portrayal of not only Aspergers but also of the relationship that took place. I highly reccommend the book, which being in England I had to import from America for £20, and the movie from Europe (for my PAL dvd player) for a similar price. It was well worth it. It was depressing at first, it was mostly bad experiences for them. But when I finished reading it, I really started putting my life into perspective.

The guy in the story is a member of this site if I recall correctly.

What did Mozart have to do with whales

I watched it twice, good movie. I'll have to get the book now that you all say it's better.

I think it's very able to happen, since it's happening for me right now. I don't have Asperger's, but my boyfriend does. We've been together for almost 3 months. I know that doesn't seem like a lot to convince you of, but it's coming along so well. We've been helping eachother sith how we work and are learning to understand eachother greatly. It's not impossible to have a relationship. You just need to be a little devoted to that person and have a drive to make the relationship work. It takes effort, but if you really try, and you feel you want to spend a lot of time with that person, it doesn't seem so hard when you try. So at the very least, give it a shot. You don't know what you're missing. Trust me, it's worth it. ^^

Although some things were a bit exaggerated for cinematic value, I loved this movie. My husband and I kept nodding to one another during certain bits, and the funny thing too was Izzy bought Donald a suit, and I just recently ordered my hubby a custom Doctor Who (10th Doctor- David Tennant) suit for his birthday!

My husband and I are lucky to be in a relationship where we understand each other on such a deep level. Though he's hypersensitive and I'm hyposensitive with regards to sensory, our habits, routines, and needs all share that AS commonality that brings us together more than it causes a fight (rare). As odd as people think we are, they commonly express just how jealous they are that we get along so well and that we're still madly in love with each other even after kids, the "9-5", and everything that comes with life as a grown-up.

We raise 2 children, one Dx w/PDD-NOS and the other most likely to be Dx at his appointment in September. The bond of love and understanding that we share has affected how we raise our children-- with all of the same special love and understanding that we give to each other. You could say we're doing great-- one big, happy, autistic family. Much like Mozart and the Whale, in the end, happiness is all that matters.