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Once in middle School I met this amazing girl, smart, cute,into scifi/fantasy. We started losing contact when We went to highschool, and lost it completly in College. I have drempt of her ever since I stopped seening her and finally was able to contact her over e-mail where we have sporatic exchanges. Last one was that she is still single. I wonder should I try to go for it? I do value her dearly as a friend, and I dont know if I could make her life better for being init. If my stupid subcounscoies didnt keep reminding me of her maybe I could just let it go. WHat should I do?

let it go.

I say pursue it but don't push too much or pressure it too much. You can't know if you would be good as romantic partners or as friends you will just have to see how it all turns out.

If at any point it isn't working out for either of you, then it ends, but why end it before it begins?

Agreed.

You met her in middle school and are now going into college?! You've waited five years to make a move?!?! Wow, dude. I'm just speechless. Give it up immediately and go pick up some girls in college. I wish you luck, man.

I guess I'll say give it a go then with or without her, you can move on. If you don't then when you're old, you'll look back and wonder. Maybe you're just holding on to a nice memory or maybe there was a special connection there. Go find out.

Guess I'll give it a try!

no no no. do not pass go .. well you know the saying. Noooooooo you have waited too long. Friendship is fine, but dating : that is just plain creepy. I'm not trying to be mean, but it is creepy. NT's see this as stalking. and desperation.

Another point that can be made is that friendship can be ruined by inputting romance into it. I had a friend who made me promise I'd never try to make anything more of it because she valued me as a friend and didn't want to loose that. I'm taking that you might be in a similar situation.

Aye.

so here's what I'd sugguest for yeh mr. Eggman, is let it go.

You haven't talked to this girl in a long time. they say time heals all wounds, well, apparently when they were saying that, they weren't talking about wounds of love/romance/sex/etc.

Well, your subconsious (and I'm going to say libido at this point) is going off, because you thought about her, I know how that feels, I have to deal with it daily, because I'm around women....all the time.....and one's subconciousness and ID(that would be the controlling mechanism that gives us our conscious and subconsious thoughts....) tend to make life like this a lot.

so in retrospect, trying to get back into her life is not such a hot thing to do.

I doubt libido lasts this long.

Are you in the same geographical location?

If you're in different places then circumstance has made the decision for you and at best you'll be casual friends that keep in touch.

About half an hour away

I think you should get back in contact with her but i wouldn't get your hopes up in saying that you are going to have a loving relationship. You might just become friends again, or she might have moved on. try it but be warned for the worst...