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Hi everyone, I'm new here so thanks for letting me in!

I'm not looking for advice or anything, but I have something really bugging me. I'm happily married with two kids (one with Autism; I'm an aspie), and recently met another aspie, she's around 15 years younger than me. She's engaged to a new workmate of mine, and of course we just 'clicked' straight away. I've never cheated or anything, and I hope I never will, but I can't get this girl out of my head. We now see each other nearly every day, but let me stress that we have not touched each other, she tells me that I'm the first person she's ever met that just 'gets her', from the first day we've been so close.

I can't do anything about this, but damn it's hard. I just wish that this hadn't happened. It's a tough life, I guess.

Cheers, Jindi

I can understand how that can be hard. You can't choose who you're attracted to, and it must be a pretty awful thing to go through when you're already married.

It is an infatuation, and hopefully it will pass. Try and focus your time on your wife and family to try and stop the thoughts

One of my fears about long-term relationships is that I'm gonna find someone I like better down the road. I can't even begin to know what you must be going through but one thing I've learned is that forbidden loves are better as a fantasy than they are as a reality. Or at the very most, a well kept secret.

I guess it's just nice to able to just be yourself, and not have to be a 'normal' character, sometimes it gets so tiring. I know I won't throw everything away, but I can honestly say that I've never been the slightest bit interested in anyone besides my wife before. I only found out about being an aspie when my son was diagnosed with autism, and maybe I've never known anyone else like me (I just thought I was weird ). Do aspies attract each other? We're so alike it's frightening!

Cheers, Jindi

anything less than desired happening in your marriage that would maybe encourage your eye to wander? or at least not deter it?

Well, no marriage is perfect, but ours is pretty strong. Our son makes things hard, but we do our best. Not much time for intimacy, but it's been that way for 5 years.

Thanks for the replies, I'm feeling a lot better having got this off my chest. Promise I won't do anything stupid!

Cheers, Jindi