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...moved cross-country to be with the person you want to be with - what did you do to handle the changes? By this time next year, I expect to be 1600 miles away from where I am now, in a city that while I have spent a fair amount of time working there... but know almost no one besides her, and having been some years since even going there for work, it is completely unfamiliar. While we've talked, and she knows that I will have a hard time acclimating and getting involved, I could really use some input from others who have experience with this. I've spent most of my life close to family and friends, even though I remain on the periphery - this is a big change.


M.

im gonna be honest, i moved interstate twice as a kid and i blame it for a lot of my problems today. having to give up the friends you have and trying to make new ones is really hard. i just dont know weather im being accepted by a new group or not so all the progress i had made had to be restarted, my knowledge of what my friends meant when they said and did different thingd was lost and i had to learn someone elses manerisms.
i guess that at least if your partner is NT then she can introduce you and you can rely on her for answers that you wouldnt see.
but i had no support from my family, who even questioned why i hadnt mande any new firends a short time after we arrived in new location. i just didnt get it.

I moved a lot in a relatively short period - eight times, three states, five years - during the middle of my elementary school years. It caused a lot of problems with attachment for me over the years. For the first time, I feel ready to move... there is a readiness to shed a lot of things and start over. But I also know once there, the unfamiliar will get to me - I will be anxious, panicked, without the resources that have been cultivated. It is something I have thought out... moving here is not an option with her career, and while I have established a life here... the future with her is worth the risk. How do I handle those moments without being a burden on her?


M.

i also move a lot but i don't even bother to make friends anymore. but that's because i know i will abandon them soon again when moving to other place. you'll have her and her friends and a motivation to make some of your own. just don't worry for time being, you'll see how it's going and then adjust.