Strange fantasies

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I've often wondered about myself having rape fantasies. I know that it wouldn't really be exciting to be raped, but in my fantasy of course it's a very sexy man (whatever actor or musician I like at the time) and it's as if I'm playing the extreme on the "hard to get" side and they're throwing me down and forcing me to surrender. I wonder if this could mean something or if it's just one of those things some women like. Frankly I question how healthy it is, and wonder if I have some deep-ceded psychological issue *shrugs*

I was raped... but i understand what you are saying. It is like you want to be a little bit powerless, and your man is strong, and sexy. and.. dont know how to express that. LOL
But i dont think it is bad to want that. to make it clear, you dont want to be raped, but you want to be desired a lot, and be hard to get but powerless.

You're fine, it's a pretty common fantasy.
If you're still worried, check out some of Nancy Friday's books, she has some that are collections of real women's fantasies. The big book stores usually carry them.

I'm sorry you had to go through something like that, which is the main reason I almost didn't post this. I would hate to look like I'm somehow glamorizing something that would be despicable to do. I suppose even in a fantasy there would have to be some reasoning behind something like that to happen, like somehow knowing that there is mutual attraction and lust from both sides.

It almost sounds to me like what you really want to try is BDSM (or at the very least the whole dominant/submissive part of it... you could probably leave the whole bondage and costumes stuff out,,,)

You're normal, I don't consider it like rape. I think of more as passion. A guy wanting you so badly that he clears the table with one hand while throwing you on top of it with the other with a desire that he can't hold back. It signifies a man being man and deep down we want to be desired and powerful knowing we have that effect on a man, that he wants you and wants you now. It's common, just enjoy it.

There needs to be a convention to distinguish roleplaying from actual rape. Otherwise the two are apparently indistinguishable and you won't get what you want from someone who is not a real rapist. For example, safe words. If something is happening that you really don't want, you can say the safe word that you agreed to use beforehand. Before a session of specified duration, you can agree that "no" or "stop" is a cue to go further or continue, and the safe word, such as "red" or "banana" really does mean stop. Don't just walk up to someone expecting the desired behavior and expect the other person to be that good at reading you, or worse yet, make a negative judgement about someone you just met based on their apparent unwillingness to treat you "badly" in a way you haven't even discussed yet!

Nettiespaghetti, it is alright, i dont think you want to be rape! As sgrannel says, it is more like a roleplaying you want, which understandable! There is nothing wrong with that

There is something to that, I just don't get into the extremes...like the bondage, etc. I just think I want to spice things up a little, try something different that I've always fantasized about.