Understanding for you

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have you ever met a person who understands you both physically and emotionally? If you have, how did it make you feel? What were your thoughts about the situation?

That's rare and, to the best that I can tell, it really hasn't happened. Its typically who I come off that I should be, whether that's more outward or whether its what someone can see of my personality. I think, like anything else though, I have to feel evenly matched much of the time or at least feel like its not a situation where society will be pounding on us both for the relationship occurring.

I've had people that understand me emotionally in some aspects (although its usually my friends, not any women...)

I've never met anyone in real life that uses the same mental process that I do though...

My best friend, she can read me like a book routinely and somehow has an answer for everything I ever need to ask and an explanation for the way I feel.

my ex before last while not understanding me completely is known to figure out what I'd do in certain situations or why shes not getting the response she wants. In the end I don't know about how it made me feel it was nice not to have to explain certain things but its not everything which is why shes one of my exs.

Not even close.

Well actually my friend Michelle understands me quite a bit. Well the emotionally part is hard but she understands what I'm going through at times. Once I did love her but she was interest in another guy who now her ex. I decide to cheer up because she did the same for me with my break up. She able to understand me because she has family members on the spectrum. She a NT but I don't care because she is a great person to be friends with.

Last edited by JerryHatake on 29 Apr 2008, 7:23 am, edited 3 times in total.

No. I get excited when someone understands me better than most people, but it's nowhere near real understanding. Long ago, I concluded that it must not be possible for one person to truly and thoroughly understand another person.

Therefore, where relationships are concerned, I look for someone who makes me happy, shares my interests, and understands me well enough for practical purposes. I like to know that me and my sig other understand each other in unique ways. Complete understanding is a fantasy.

Statistically, but on the other hand I think even if you or I met someone who understood us completely, it still wouldn't mean much in the sense that we'd still have all the interactional red-tape off the top and even if they liked us and saw us exactly for who we are - doesn't guarantee a lot.

I have to agree though, close is good enough and especially when you meet someone who you know you can make happy and you know has a spark in them that makes them revitalizing to be around - its about the biggest plus you can find and actually have some reliance on.

I used to think like that, then I realised it is sort of a false notion. It is more important to me to meet someone I can really relate to, and hopefully they will relate to me. I don't even fully 'understand' myself so I wouldn't expect them to either.

Maybe think you are not being 'understood' is more a reflection of having difficulty relating to people.

i used to have a friend who is very nice and kind to me, she didn't know i am AS but she stuck out with my mood swings and specific requests about things didn't treat me as weird at all, but the problem was i couldn't reciprocate i felt she thought i was selfish coz i withdrew from her when i had trouble from work (we worked in the same company), she stayed on, i left, didn't communicate for 4 years until last week she texted me to tell me that she got married and has a kid now. i felt a bit jealous but i was happy for her. just felt good that despite my shortcomings she still considered me a friend somehow.

Me neither

To risk sounding Emo...

Nobody understands me!1!11!

I have met people who ACCEPT me, physically & emotionally.

One in particular - there is a certain amount of understanding. We tend to feel the same way about relationships & dating, for instance. But *understanding*? - she freely admits she doesn't quite "get" me half the time.

The marvelous thing, though, is that we don't compete & we don't struggle with each other. We just accept each other. It's absolutely the most comfortable relationship I've ever had.

Yes.


As if I were more than just a mainframe A.I. that got hung up in Beta testing.


Reboot.

Yes.

It made me feel loved, cared about and normal.