I got her number and facebook about ehh 2 weeks ago...

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I know she doesn't want to date me from the way she acts but what I don't understand is where I stand with her b/c I've asked her to hang out a few times only to get rejected everytime and we text but I have to start it and she tends to sway towards ending the convo... I don't get her but I can't be a jerk and not talk to her b/c that'll make me look bad and really I just wanna understand where I stand with her. I think that she doesn't really like me that much at all but doesn't feel threatened or anything and just lets me hang around just b/c...

Typical female response... expecting the male to chase them... I hate it too...

Well, stop asking, and start alluding to telling, so you don't come across as pushy.

"I'd like to hang out with you sometime." + YOU stating time / location

Not:

"Want to hang out with me sometime?"

"Hang out with me."

The latter really only works when a lot of rapport, trust, and comfort have been established.

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My best advice is to be her friend!! !!
Maybe she doesn't want to date at the time.
Hang in there!!

I'm not sure what's difficult to understand. As a girl, in my opinion she is not interested in you even as a friend. She's trying to be polite but is hoping that you get the message. Move on.

Applied disinterest seems to be the response, although admittedly that is a rash assumption with little information. My only advice is to let things move on their own; she is not expressing interest (even to the point of quashing conversation) and pressing the matter will not help your endeavors. Let pass, and be receptive. It may not be pain-free, but these are the lessons we learn.


M.

Very undemocratic ..... I know but I am censoring this post because it will only bring troubles and false hopes to KingofKaboom.

Well I'm trying to find a good way to break it off I guess... I mean I don't wanna lose contact with the only girl I know but I don't wanna waste my time on her either...

Your post made the most likely case.
At any rate whats difficult is that she shows no effort to get rid of me while allowing me to get closer hence the issue for example...
I ask her for her number she says no instead of giving it to me or I ask her to join my friends on facebook and she declines it... ofcourse on both times she'd make an excuse as to why but it would be more noticeable that way...


Ok so this is an edit so that I don't triple post but I deleted her number and removed her from facebook now if she doesn't like me at all she won't even notice or care at all but if she does she'll ask about it and I'll just play it off but I doubt she will so I'll just keep it to the classroom and no further it seems. Oh and I'm not very upset or anything a little down about the situation but it's okay b/c I did try and learned some more so maybe next time I'll do better