Asperger and Bi-Polar

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Here I am, just after having had a fight (in my opinion a bad one) with my bi-polar ... I hope soon girl-friend, currently more than just a female friend but less than a girlfriend.

Does anyone have any suggestions on how to handle a bi-polar person, who switches around her emotions faster than I (I'm the 'Asperge') can actually read into them (I can read into emotions, but it takes some effort).

I love her dearly, but I just don't understand her mood-swings, and they make me feel miserable (although I do like the making up bits, as they make me work hard on my own weird emotions).

as a bipolar myself, i understand your frustration, only because i have seen first hand what this can do to any relationship, be it a friendship or a romantic relationship. i wish there was some magic answer to this, but there isn't. we are a difficult breed. lol. seriously. best you can do is try to be as patient and understanding as possible, and just try to understand that we don't behave like this on purpose. i know it's hard. good luck.

I dated a bi-polar for 8 years (mistake...never start on the 'up' cycle, especially if 'down' lasts 7 years at a stretch).

It takes some doing, but it depends on the intensity of the swings. But She who must be Appeased is in the past. I wish you luck.

[quote="Cyberman]Just out of curiosity... is this the same woman who you referred to as your "current girlfriend" in the "Maybe this will help" thread?[/quote]

Well yes, she is actually my girlfriend, but I still need to make the step to go over and visit her.

my dad has bipolar and aspergers and it can be very difficult. you've got to decide whether the good is worth sticking around for during the bad times. for example my dad is lovely most of the time, but when he's on a downer its awful, but you just have to keep going. if she is swinging as quickly as you have emplied she is, then perhaps more/different medication would be a good option to stabalize her moods.

(you do learn how to read whats happening with them)

Because it doesn't sound like they are very effective.

If she isn't medicated... bad bad bad
...run

Otherwise, tell her you're concerned the medications she's on aren't working. She might not be able to tell, and should welcome an outside opinion.

Im reminded of the popsong hot n cold whos lyrics describe what its like to be involved with a bipolar person. I have never been diagnosed with bipolar or any sort of mood disorder; however I do seem to have some of the telltale symptoms in terms of my personality. Im EXTREMELY intense and go through phases where Im very aggressive but usually it passes within a few days. Then I also have occasional downswings but my moods are not periodic. Yet Im emotionally volatile in the sense that I get all worked up with very little provocation and often seek out drama for the thrill of it.