How To Get A Boyfriend If You're Autistic

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1. If you're obese, then lose some weight. You have to remember that men are very visual creatures and they place a high emphasis on looks. Losing weight will enable you to not only increase your prospects, but it will also make you feel more beautiful and feel better about yourself.

Now before you start to question yourself if you're too fat, there is a different between curvy and obese. Curvy girls have big curves and don't have a lot of fat. Think of someone like Kim Kardashian or Marilyn Monroe or Sofia Vergara. Curvy girls can be very sexay.

Obese however is not sexy. Now don't get me wrong, some guys will like obese girls but many many guys will reject you because of it.

You can lose weight by eating better types of food, eating less, and getting at least 45 minutes of exercise every other day.



2. You need to make yourself more appealable to men.


So how do you make yourself more appealable to men? Well you start off by losing weight if you're obese. Secondly, you start giving a s**t about how you look. Thirdly, dress to impress.



Some women may hate me for saying this but in terms of dating and prospects, you have the upper hand over guys on any day, especially if you're young. Girls have the luxury of waiting for men to approach them, all you have to do is look like an approachable girl.

If you're a girl who's in her teens or 20s reading this, you pretty much rule the dating scene. If you really wanted to (most of you won't), you could EASILY sleep with any single guy you find attractive if you show him interest. Most guys are willing to f**k a girl they find attractive if she walks up and shows interest. Believe me.

Goofygoobers around 6 months ago is an example. All she did was make a thread on Wrong Planet saying how all she wanted was a bf and was into nerdy guys and showed a picture of herself. She probably got messaged by 10 guys on here and before you know it, she was in a relationship with a WP member. If you're a girl especially a young decently attractive girl, don't take for granted your power in the dating scene. Many guys would dream to have a line of prospects waiting for them.



3. When a guy does approach you don't scare him away.

Maybe some guys don't like you because for some reason when he does show interest, you come off as someone who doesn't want to be bothered. Maybe you have that f**k OFF! look on your face.

Or maybe just maybe he senses your craziness.

When a guy is approaching you and you like him, show him interest.




4. Learn how to spot the a**hole/players from the genuine nice guys.


Now iv'e heard that a lot of aspie girls get into abusive relationships because they have trouble knowing if their bf is going to be a total a**hole or not.

Learn to tell the difference.





5.

Seriously if you're a woman, don't take it for granted when it comes to dating because you'll always have an upper hand compared to men prospects-wise.

Remove number 5 and these all apply to both sexes.

Generally taking care of yourself well mentally and physically is the key to being attractive to others socially.

And when you see those that don't do just that but still find success, just remember the one that ended up with them has bad taste and is not worth your time. For instance, just why would you want to date the girl that ends up with the 'a55hºle'? Clearly she has the same qualities, or is too blind to recognize he is an 'a55hºle'. And women lacking in introspection and awareness aren't attractive.

Instead you've given a purely stereotypical and narrow-minded view based on your individual experiences/opinions, and own culture.

Is this 'bad'? No, but it's extremely limiting.

Good advice!

Are most autistic women obese or something?

I didn't have to do any of that to find a boyfriend....just put a profile on OKcupid.

Hmm, Kim Kardashian is definately fat. When I feel unhappy about my weight I always think, "well at least I'm not as fat as Kim Kardashian." (I love that Google Chrome spell checker is red squiggly lining the word Kardashian.)

Anyway...

I do think aspie women tend to have a stand offi-ish vibe. Not sure if it is a genetic personality trait or a side effect of having been bullied at school and not believing they are worth anything. It can be hard to flirt with a man you like if you feel like you are worthless.

What you wrote is correct. The sad reality of this whole dating scene is it is very shallow.

This whole dating around culture does not interest me either because, in my opinion, it is distasteful.

By the way, I am not the biggest fan of her, but Kim Kardashian is not fat.

Yeah, that results in shallow approaches to work. How datings move from shallow beginnings to serious relationship is a whole different story imo.

You know why? When I see your pic, I see very attractive lady who is wild, natural, and sexy. Guys would see that as well. I mean it. I saw a pic you posted long time ago..It was Krabo's thread, in which you have very natural and sexy aura.. I always thought you just had chosen wrong pictures for your avatar but for this new avatar, you chose better one finally, but still I know you're more beautiful than your avatar.

Females aren't the only aspies that give a standoffish vibe.

A few months back, I was yelled at by a girl who was flirting with me and I didn't know she was flirting with me. She said I wasn't as cool as I think I am and asked who I thought I was I to just brush her off.

I don't give that vibe on purpose. I look at girls all the time (especially chubby ones because that's my preference) but it's like a window shopping. I don't really want to try any of them on for size lol

The point I'm getting to is that I don't like NT women and will prefer to date an spectrum girl. So my question to you is do you think Aspie girls prefer only NT guys or is there some chance for me ?

Well I know I had a pretty good picture on my okcupid profile, but yeah I suppose I tend to underestimate my looks, I imagine a lot of it goes back to getting picked on and such and also the pressure to be more 'feminine' growing up. Though sort of glad I didn't buy into all that, not really attracted to the kinds of guys who pursue very feminine girls so if I put on an act like that I'd have attracted the wrong guys.

Hmm. Two of my three sisters and I don't do most of these things, and we've all had boyfriends. Even now, that I am old, average looking, and do not wear makeup, style my hair, or wear 'fashionable' clothing, men are still approaching me. Granted, I'm not obese, but then I've seen plenty of obese women attract husbands and boyfriends who are devotedly attached to them. It is true that I didn't have a boyfriend in junior high and high school, but that is due to my own avoidant behaviour. I rejected people who approached me even when they were attractive, because I couldn't deal with intimacy.

Experience may vary, is what I'm getting at.

I definitely agree with what you said, Varelse.

If you're an attractive aspie girl, you might get a boyfriend by approaching a guy in a friendly way. It shouldn't be too hard.

No, you might get a date or opportunity to get to know them....but no guarantee of a boyfriend. Also what about autistic females that can't approach people they don't know? Or have a hard time coming off 'friendly' and relaxed?

Then I guess you just have to chill out. There's lots of hope for the alpha ladies.